My child’s father has started to date someone else and I’m feeling intense feelings about it

More of a rant really…but advice would be appreciated. My child’s father and I were together for a year before we tried to have a child. As soon as I fell pregnant, he changed. He used to be sweet, caring, understanding and just over all the prefect man…I thought. He started drinking, doing drugs and started coming home late and way too intoxicated. I tried breaking up with him many times and he refused. Well he decided to break up with me 6 days after my birthday. Then I found out he cheated on me with a man while I was pregnant. This only got to me because I am extremely open sexually and already discussed this with him. We are both bisexual. I told him as long as he’s honest and safe, he can mess around with men. I only found out because I went through his phone (I know that was bad). We started getting into really bad arguments which lead to physical fights. This last fight, he was trying to suggest he was going to do whatever it takes to get our daughter taken from..even if it meant getting her into the system. I tried to record it and he threw my phone. When I tried to get it, he wrestled me to the stairs and tried to push me down them while our daughter (9months at the time) was watching. I now have a protection order against him. Well I just found out he is now dating a friend of his which he always said was just a friend 😅 It stings but I want to reach out to her and warn her but I know she’s a grown women and I am also praying she is not blind like I was. He is a narcissist and a really good pathological liar. I believed him so deep…we were engaged, had plans for this whole life. Then he said the old him is dead. Now it’s out again with this new relationship. Should I just stay out of it and keep praying?

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See it’s a tough one because we don’t want them going through what we went through so we try to warn them but on the other hand if you say something your going to be looked at like a bitter ex if that makes sense like they might say your just trying to get in between them But yeh if it was me I would just watch a sit back for a while. If he’s that shitty he will prove that for himself in the end xxx

Oh the women will always find out eventually what they he is like do not worry about that🤣 horrible situation you are going through but this has happened to me in the past. Let go move on and his new girlfriend will find out his true colours very soon…

Y’all I just want to message her with a “run away!!!” But that’s child’s asf 😅 these intrusive thoughts are just piling but I have to remind myself that my daughter is what’s important here.

She’s not gonna stop dating him if you say something or not. I wouldn’t even waste my time. He’s struggling with something internally that was brought out in his when you announced your pregnancy. What it is idk but that’s my guess.

Girl, stay out of it, keep both of them in your prayer. He may have been an asshole to you but he’s still your daughters father and you want the best for your daughter so just stay prayed up and let it go. Easier said than done but his karma will get him in due time.

You don’t chase, you attract. Whatever is meant for you will come to you and you don’t waste your precious energy on things that don’t serve you I’m sorry to hear you have to deal with this very unpleasant situation (been there), but keep your head up remember your worth and move along girl You can’t force someone, especially a narcissist, to change, you can only change and improve yourself

I’d have someone else message her. Just warn her then never respond again. Your mind will be able to be at ease bc you tried.

I’m afraid you thinking you warning her will do anything it most likely won’t she will probably look at it as your jealous I’m sure she will question him about what your saying nd then he will deny it make it seem like your the crazy one trust me

Seems like you’ve dodged a bullet that’s gods sign of telling you that you deserve better

It sounds like you two had an open bisexual relationship from the start. And people who are in this kind of relationships are complicated characters, and it getting messy is a guarantee. The traditional family of a man, woman and their love child/children is what we are created for, that’s what is safe for us and where the happiness and peace can be found. Any deviation from this leads to chaos, hurt, heartbreak and pain. Good news is that every day is a new opportunity to start anew and look for this kind of stable, monogamous relationship :)

I don’t know if you are aware of “clares law” and if it exists where you live You can get the police to inform someone of the partner’s old DV case

@Robiat I will look into that

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