Controlling MIL 😭

Throughout my pregnancy any bit of excitement I had would turn into a “just you wait” negative conversation with her. Since my baby boy has been born she has tried to control everything. I moved away from my family to start a better life for the baby here in the countryside but she’s used that as an opportunity to control me even more. When my Son was 6 weeks he hadn’t yet met my siblings or nieces or nephews, my MIL kept saying “he needs to meet my friends asap you need to ask them round for coffee so they can meet him” I explained that her friends wasn’t at the top of my priority list and wouldn’t be meeting him before my family as that’s not fair. Anyway, fast forward a week she asked us to go round for a BBQ at her house, low and behold her friend was there waiting with a present for cuddles. It felt like a complete set up and I was so angry. She hasn’t respected my boundaries at all and it seems anything I have a worry about she downplays. She tried to talk my partner out of coming to the hospital with me last week when I had a scare from because referred for lumps on my breast. She said she was 99% sure it was nothing and he shouldn’t bother taking time off work to come. How could she have been so sure it was nothing when my doctor wasn’t? Along with all of this when she holds the baby she won’t pass him back when he starts to cry, I say can I have him please and she makes comments like “he wants his Granny not his Mummy” I have so many issues with her I don’t know where to start, I’ve always said I like her but she can be difficult but honestly I’m at the point now where I don’t like her and I feel so lonely here without friends or family and feel she’s taken complete advantage of me. Any advice would be great please lol