Does anyone have any marriage book recommendations? (Non-religious)

We’ve had a hard time with communication, attitudes, tempers and just lack of respect in our relationship this year. Most has been one sided but I want to work on whatever I need to as well. I would love to find a book for marriages going through it, especially after kids. Maybe something on how to reconnect and respect each other, something that has workbook type pages for us to write in together or answer questions? Anyone know of anything? If there’s not a way he can physically get involved through exercises or writing things down, he won’t care to listen if I read it aloud. We just had our second child and are desperate to find some common ground again