Do you think breaks in a relationship are healthy?
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Break at work or when you step out for a walk or jog but to say I need to take some time apart to myself to figure out if this is what I want or not is obvious that that person has unmet needs and expectations that may not exist . Yes space can help but to say we need to keep breaking up to figure things out is another thing. 🚩
No. It’s not. Supposing the people in the couple have different jobs, it’s enough “break” from each other. Actual breaks where you don’t speak to each other or you don’t see each other for, idk, a week, it’s not beneficial and you should be concerned if your partner asks for it.
No, I think that's unhealthy. I feel like it's an excuse to get to hook up with other people (especially people who have no boundaries when they're on a break). Taking break from each other as in having their own activities, friends, alone time, etc. is necessary and healthy. But taking a break from the relationship as a whole is just asking for trouble.
This is interesting. Because we are taught that relationships have to be consistent with no breaks. I guess the norm is for it to be ongoing. But maybe breaks can help especially if the relationship is strained. In my opinion.
I was with my partner for 8 years, separated for a year and have now been with him for another 10 years. We both did a lot of growing up and re-evaluating in that year apart and came back together knowing what we wanted and needed for the future
This is why I believe wholeheartedly it’s healthy for both parties to have friends and hobbies outside the relationship/family life. Because work for many people is work, it’s not a break, sometimes work is stressful AF. When he wants a lil break from all the family hustle he goes bowling or fishing or golfing w his friends, comes home a lil chirpier and less stressed.or just to the pub for a couple drinks, play pool etc. When I want a lil break I invite a gf out or go to her house for movie pizza face masks, or we go out. We both have a hobby day and a friend catch-up per week and we both take that as needed. It’s harder to do when you have no friends, but at least find an outside hobby that you love doing, something different for each (we share same hobbies and we have our own) Because I told him from the start I don’t want him relying on us for 100% of his happiness I want him to have friends and hobbies he can lean on, as an outlet, as would I.
There’s a difference between taking a break from the relationship and spending times doing things individually. Taking a break as in not speaking and staying in separate places is not a sign of a healthy relationship. There may be times where it’s needed but that shouldn’t be a frequent occurrence. Taking time to do things individually; work, hobbies, exercise, time with friends, ect totally normal. It’s good and necessary to have individual time not just couple 24/7 because that leads to codependency issues.
@Kellie i whole heartedly agree with you, i just do however think that’s the type of break this post is referring to, is like Ross and Rachel on friends “we where on a break” break LOL
@Parker 又 I know. Which is why I put my opinion on how they can take another type of break, away from each other, that’s much healthier, than the one she’s talking about. Similar to Carrie and Big in sex and the city how they have their own apartment but then he’s kept his own apartment and spends it there himself every weekend and she had a hard time getting used to that. Being “married and all”.
I left my fiance four months while he was in rehab. The deal was that I wouldn't come back with the kids until he was one month clean and sober. He did that. But we still communicated. We still talked, and he still saw the kids. We just didn't live together. It definitely helped our relationship in many ways. And we are much happy and stronger. Partly because he has an eye opening experience and changed
I wanted more time to myself as I’m a teacher, a mum of 4 boys and tutor too. My ex-partner (the father of my youngest) was begrudging me a 2 hour bath on occasion or a period of time just to unwind in front of the Tav. He works alone and needed company and attention. It started to grate so I started loading respect and love for him. There were unkind things said too which made me want even more time without him to the point I knew he had to move out. My ex-husband (father to my oldest 3) understood my need for time and always gave it to me willingly.
@Parker 又 lol I was thinking Friends "we were on a break!" this entire time as I was going through the comments 😂
My husband doesn’t believe in breaks. He believes it’s either break up or roam about it and get better as he is traumatised from that word. Him and his ex went on a break and she got pregnant for so some else during the break
Nope.
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Not always a good thing and depends why but can only speak from my experience. I met my husband when I was 16 (he was 19), we dated for about 2 years and then we broke up. I was VERY young and so was he. After 2 years of being apart (no contact atall) he got back in touch. We have been together ever since. Married nearly 8 years, 1 daughter and another baby on the way. Breaks work if you can re-evaluate things and grow. Not if things stay the same because that’s why you broke up in first place. Also doesn’t work if you analyse what happened on that “break”. My husband slept with multiple women but he was single. I don’t hate him for it because ultimately it’s what made him come back for me 🤣
I think a break as in just physically being apart for a like a week is fine. Sometimes you just need space Like the relationship on break? Absolutely not 😅
Taking a physical break from constantly being near eachother can be beneficial to a relationship that’s strained, but yeah if you frequently “take breaks” in your relationship you should just let it go.