Top tips for longevity friendships.

To those who've got really good friendships that's lasted 5+ years, what are your top tips for having really solid friendships? Is it that you're a good listener? Is it that you've dropped stuff to be there for them last minute? Etc etc Please share. I had my little girl's first birthday party over the weekend & had 7 friends (with their kids) attend, only 2 of them I've been good friends with for over 10 years. The other 5, I've met through baby groups or through this app this year (which I'm extremely proud of - to have made friends that came to celebrate my daughter's birthday)... Hoooowever, I seem to lose friends every year or so & it's not the same friends I'm having at special occasions. Whereas, my partner.. All the friends he invited, he's known for over 10+ years & it's just made me think, what am I doing wrong? (I sometimes cut people off/distance myself when they do something I'm not a big fan of or if they don't do something which I expected them to do - eg, I didn't invite one friend to the party cuz she can be bad vibes + she didn't comment on my close friend's story of my daughter taking her first steps when I've been very supportive of her daughter's milestones lol.. Could this be a reason? 🫣.. Anyways, I want to hold on to these new friends & hopefully have them at future special occasions. If that makes sense. Any tips?

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Yes cutting people off for not commenting on stories is definitely a reason. Not everyone is really that into social media, I'm guessing you are which is why you place significant value in commenting on stories, but I don't think you can hold others to that And honestly, 5 years isn't a long time at all when you're in your 30s. Even my "newer" friends from when I've relocated I've been friends with for 8 years. I think you need to look at why you're cutting others off and whether it's truly fair. I've cut people off before, for instance some friends have a colorful past, and the fact they were still partying like they were teenagers after they became parents (years and years after) just didn't sit right with me.

I have many friends that I’ve had for 5+ years I have friends that I’ve had for 10, 15, 20 years You need to give people the benefit of the doubt and COMMUNICATE. This does not mean talk regularly. This means, if they do something that bothers you, talk to them about and come willing to understand rather than to be right. Everyone lives their own lives and it is unfair to have specific expectations of people. The only thing you can expect from those that call you a friend is respect and trust and love. These people will be there when you come to them and will respect you enough to not bring you down or gossip about you. You can trust them to be honest and reliable. You need to hold yourself accountable too. Are you these things to the people you call friend? Are you willing to be there for a mental breakdown in the middle of the night or defend them to someone talking crap about them when they’re not there? If no, then you’re not a very good friend yourself and need to change

Thank you ladies 🥹💕

Honesty.when you mess up and when they do. Making time. Either for text, a call or a visit. Showing interest in their personal growth 💕 My bestie has been my bestie for 25+ y and my other bestie (I met as an adult) has been my bestie for 10+ y They both know and care for each other 💕 I got other great friendships of 15+

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