Struggling with intimacy during pregnancy

Your body isn’t letting you down. Your mind is. Your body is working perfectly and it’s normal for things to not be the same when pregnant. Take it easy on yourself and just rest a little, you never know in a few weeks it’ll all change and get better. Even if it doesn’t, it’s okay to take a break and let your body just focus on growing your baby and making sure you’re okay! Don’t be too hard on yourself

It jsit annoys me and breaks my heart not being able to satisfy myself or my boyfriend and I don't feel the same x

There’s nothing wrong with taking a break from intimacy if you want to but if you are wanting that is there alternatives for the time being? Mutual masterbation? Getting sex toys? Oral?

I agree with @Maisey try things other than penetrative sex. Give your body a break and things might change as you progress.

@Maisey thing is I don't want to take a break from it it's the one thing that settles my mood and makes me feel good about myself I do have a bullet but doasnt do much i have been taking a break tbh from intimacy because of the water infections and sensitive spots but it just isn't my personality and same with my partner we have always been very intimate since the day we met it's ever since I got pregnant we have had problems

@Terri I have problems with my feet they're out of line a severe ingrown nail and I can never ride my partner because of how stiff my hips and bones are all the time because of my feet I feel like I can't please him or myself He pays for everything I can't find any work and it's the one thing that we both enjoy and can forget about the stress of life

Aww I feel you! My second pregnancy was rough! Barely had sex bcuz I was so uncomfortable! And round 🤣 Can u guys do other things than penetration. Also if his hands are dirty or long finger nails make sure he washes his hands before touching you. It will get better once you have the baby, but be kind to yourself right now. If you’re hard on yourself sex will become stale, and turned off yknow so just embrace the situation kinda

I mean not wanting sex is a pretty normal thing in pregnancy. Not everyone picks up the drive to have sex. It’s my second and I really couldn’t care less for sex 😅🤣 I’m so tired and have a nearly 3 year old and work with kids so I’m exhausted regardless aha has your partner said anything about it or has he pressured you into it? Just being open and honest is the key. Yeah it’s probably frustrating for both but don’t beat yourself up about it. It will only make things worse. Try not to rush yourself, like others said there’s different things you could try x

Yes he has mentioned about it and he's not happy x he thinks I've lost interest in him which is far from the case he's unhappy because he isn't getting pleasured himself from me

@Nicole granted they will think like that but he’s also got to realise that pregnancy does a lot of things to you and your body so it’s all about patience and communication, good luck girl. Hopefully this will sort itself out real soon for you guys x

I’m 14 weeks pregnant and don’t feel like it..he has a high sex drive. I told him to be patient with me but I try my best and give him a bj here and there. Today he came back home from work during his short break and after lunch I gave him a bj.he was happy and yeah well..till when I’am 16 weeks or so.

@Princes I'm not even doing BJ's I'm always tired out hungry achy and feel sick and cramp up every time I bend down to do anything miserable existence ATM x he doesn't understand I'm not the same girl I was before pregnancy

Because mine has a stupidly high sex drive and likes rough I used to like rough to buy can't handle it now during pregnancy ATM and he likes to throat f*** alot and gets carried away sometimes and I'm just not the same as I was 4 months ago u know x

I don’t know why so many pregnant women feel the need to pressure themselves into having sex. If you feel like it and your body is ok for it then go ahead - but if you’re exhausted and achy and cramping then just relax. Sex can wait.. there are other ways to be intimate with your partner without having sex. You can try foreplay or a shower together or a massage. You’re growing a literal human inside of you which will come with a lot of physical and emotional changes and your partner needs to be understanding of that.