This is just a question

I don’t find it wrong to look in your partner’s phone if you feel like something is wrong. Sorry, not sorry. I think he is wrong, not you.

Right my point but he keeps say that he didn't do anything wrong but you did you Indulged in a conversation with someone else

And that not even half of he was talking about going over to her house to smoke and to drink but we know where that Leads to

I don’t think it was wrong to look in his phone if you felt like something nefarious was going on. However that said I also think that sometimes people need a friend to bounce things off of, maybe get a different perspective, as long as they ultimately come back to their partner and have a conversation. And neither party cross the line to being inappropriate. But again you’re saying he was wanting to go over to her house and drink and smoke which right there can definitely cross the line.

@Ashlyn Richmond oh no… that’s bad

He didn't come back to me at to talk about what is really going on between him and i but at the same time I would have went to him and talk to him about it before i went to another man about my relationship issues

My take when you feel something not right between you and your partner or friend or siblings talking it through helps, I know it could be heard at times but having a sincere and honest conversation could straighten things out involving third parties never ends well. be it having a smoke or a drink makes it worse been the opposite sex

Right because if I have a problem I will go to my partner and talk to him

@Evergreen you are not guaranteed that the partner is being honest, so it’s easier to find yourself. I personally don’t see the issue. Only people that have something to hide finds it wrong.

Wait was he talking shit about you to her??????

True Loana one can only find out through having a conversation

@Amber yes, he was telling her that he was fed up with me and that he didn't want anything to do with me. But think about it, I am the one that has been here with him through everything, making sure he was good no matter what. I never went to another man to talk about my relationship issues, I just dealt with it on my own.

@Amber the thing that hurts the most is the we are suppose to get married next year in July but how do I know if he is still talking to her still

@Evergreen he did have a conversation with here that's just part of it

I say ur both wrong. But u 2 are clearly not equally open with each other (no offense) usually when a woman has an instinct or gut feeling of something being up, she's right. I myself went thru my husband's phone when I felt something was up and he was having an emotional affair! Yes I was wrong for going thru his phone but he was wrong for the affair and not communicating with me the issues at hand that led him to have the affair. So we went to counseling and also found this app called paired. It's great! It's not just for married couples but for all couples in a romantic relationship. There's all kinds of things to bring the 2 of u closer but I will say the most important thing is to get to the bottom of why it is that the 2 of u or he feels that u can't openly and honestly communicate between just the 2 of u together without involving a 3rd party especially one of the opositie sex bc she will then start possibly thinkin "ok he's unhappy so if I make a move and he reciprocates then it's not wrong"

@Crystal right I was wrong for going through his phone but at the same time my fiance is wrong for every indulging in a conversation with any other woman because I honestly believe that you partner is suppose to be your everything iam hurt about it still yes do I trust him no I don't because how do I know that he wouldn't do it again if he feeling some type of way.

@Crystal Honestly I don't know what to do or how to feel WHAT SHOULD I DO