I’m not ok 😭😭😭

1 day at a time baby girl . You got this !

I’m so sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. It’s completely understandable to miss your partner and feel lost right now. Adjusting to being a single mom, especially after so many years together, is a huge challenge. You matter, and your feelings are valid. Hugs xx

@Desiree thanks so much 😭

@Honey thanks so much 😭 I don’t know what to do with myself 😞 I can’t believe how lost I feel xx

If you don’t mind me asking, why did you split up?

It’s understandable, you just need to be strong for your baby’s sake. If you ever need to chat don’t hesitate to message me directly

@Amy he was never here… he works Monday to Friday and also does his own thing on a weekend. I begged and begged for more time and he just wouldn’t give it even though I was alone with the children all of the time 😭 I ended it wanting change and now he’s not willing to go back 😭 saying I cause too much anxiety

@Honey thank you that means so much!!

It sounds like you’re mourning the idea of you and him rather than the reality of you and him. In reality, if he was barely there, it’s not really any different. It probably just feels very alien to you because now you know for definite that you’re on your own but think of it as an opportunity to find someone who does give you the time of day. You deserve to be cared for and someone to help support you and your children.

You've got this. Your broken heart will mend with time. I think you're grieving the reality of it all. Here if you need a chat xx

You got this. Being a single mom is better than being a single mom whilst married. I know it’s so hard right now but it’ll be ok as more time passes.

You've got this hun I've been a single mom and my daughter is now 17 you will be the best mom ur little one deserves be kind to yourself and if you ever need to talk feel free to message me xxx

@Amy thank you you’re so right! I’m definitely mourning the idea more than ten reality 😞 think we’ve been together that long I just always assumed we were forever 😭

@Ruth thank you so much! You’re right xx

@Minh Thu thank you so much! I hope in time I see that.

@Ann thank you so much! Really appreciate that xxx

I am so sorry you feel like this. You are still a unique person who will find new goals etc. Just remember it was never a waste, you was meant to have met that person at that time and have your children. By you meeting your ex partner and being together and now apart has all let up to your children being exactly how they are today 😘

Take it step by step xx

Whitney housten step by step is a great song and a good reminder for taking everything bit by bit x

@Emma Cotterell thank you so much! I’m trying to think it was meant to be this way but I even ever planned on being a single mum 😞

@Emma Cotterell I love that song! Going to listen to it now! Thanks

It is a new journey but it could honestly be one of the best xx

It takes a lot of strength to come as far as you have. Don’t give up now lovely - you can do it! ❤️

I know it's hard now but it will get better. It sounds like it's all still quite fresh, so emotions are high. Take your time, no rush to get over him or try to forget... slowly slowly... it'll be fine. Stay strong xxx

Find yourself. Focus on self care and put yourself first. If it’s meant to be it will.

I’m heartbroken for you. It IS a huge grief and loss and immeasurable pain. I feel similar because I’m probably about to be in the same boat. 11 years and I love him but it’s not working and I am not going to be able to breathe without my children. I’ve been calling the suicide hotlines in my country. One night they weren’t even there. I asked my prescriber for a new depression med on Friday afternoon. She didn’t get back to me. I’m calling the daytime program at the mental health hospital tomorrow to see if their hours are flexible enough that I can still drop off and pick up my kids. You can message me anytime

Just want to let you know that Jesus sees the pain you’re feeling & He cares for you deeply. Praying for your heart to be healed and whole again💕

It’ll get better in time and you’ll realise it was better to not be together and you’ll start to enjoy your free time. I was with my oldest son’s dad for 10 years and now I couldn’t even imagine being with him.

You have to focus on why the relationship ended and you deserve better. It is natural that it hurts it is your norm. Focus on the kids and getting to know yourself again. Do things for yourself and find out what you enjoy. I'm here if u want to talk x

@Annie thanks it’s been 3 months 😭

@Megan that’s what I’m trying to do but finding it hard to concentrate on anything other than us all just being together as a family 😞

@Ele thanks so much and I’m very sorry you’re going through same thing 😭 I’ve had thoughts I’d be better off dead and it petrifies me that when I’m on my own I’ll do it 😞 my children are the only things that keep me strong. I hope you can find some peace soon 💜

@Cee thanks so much 💕

@Sam really? Omg I hope I get to that stage 😭 I just feel like I’m floating at the moment and all I do is miss him and my children when he has them 😞

@Sharon thank you so much! I am trying to get out and do things and find myself but I’m struggling to find things I enjoy as my whole life has been about my children. I never had nights out, nights off or days out. It’s a real big adjustment 😭 x

@Annie thanks so much! Trying my hardest xxx

Yes absolutely it just takes time

I feel your pain. I left my husband of 17 years, 2 weeks ago. I have 3 children with him and seeing them lose their father is heartbreaking. The missing, hurt, anger, betrayal is something that is almost unbearable. I genuinely hope with time it gets easier. Staying was not an option and I don’t know what the future holds but I am trying so hard to be strong for my children. As mothers we have to be strong but I know it gets exhausting and just want to scream your lungs out. But I’m not giving up and hope you gain the strength to keep going.

@Suyi sorry to hear you’re going through the same thing 😞 we’ve got this 💜

Yessss our minds are like telling us the pain won’t stop. The only thing that keeps me here is my kids too. And even staying alive for them, the pain is getting too much. I hope you’ve had some relieving moments of your pain. I know those moments can be so short. I’ve been watching/listening to comedy stories (mainly Campcounselors podcast on YouTube but I speed it up cause they take too long lol). I called the animal shelter and left a message about being a dog walker sometimes. Maybe that will help me. The help program did take me but the start day is weeks away. I had to nag my prescriber to make me an earlier appointment to change my med but she is finally listening and I will pick it up today. There needs to be so much more support for moms going though this kind of thing. Until that happens I guess it’s just all of us that have to keep each other going. ❤️ Do you have the hotlines put in your phone? In my country it’s 741741 and 988. You can text.

@Ele thank you so much that means alot! I hope you’re getting through it as well as you can 💜