Your man horny..

In my personal opinion, if it made him horny and he preferred me over jerking off, I’m ok with it. Men are reactive creatures lol… on the flip side, if he rarely initiates but only does it when he sees something but isn’t also on you constantly, I’d be pissed. My man is constantly complementing, hitting on me, touching me, craving and desiring me, so I don’t ever feel like I’m being used because he constantly demonstrates desire and affection to me.

@Pamela Noelle well I don’t know if he only does it when he sees something, but I mean there’s sexy women everywhere yk. In public, online, simple day to day life, not that I ever caught him staring in public btw. Not that I don’t turn him on, but usually it’s when I wear something really sexy or if I dress up for him. I mean I prefer my man using me over cheating or porn regardless. I just hate this feeling that’s all, I understand it’s all biology and a simple ass can turn a man on, just gotta get over it I guess. But you think I should let my man know ? Idk if that would create problems, considering I’ve brought it up before, and he said I’m just assuming or connecting things that’s not proof enough. But would you tell your man or just let it slide?

If he loves and respects you, he wouldn’t take insult to it nor should it create a problem. I would definitely tell my man, it’s hard for me to communicate stuff like this because of previous relationships where I was gaslit and abused for communicating my feelings about ANYTHING. But my current partner is soooo kind and patient. And I have def had the Twitter porn convo, where everything on the tl was ass ass ass. And like if you’re single it’s fine but… as a man in a relationship you stay away from that type of “temptation”. Not entirely but it shouldn’t be every other post. I would tell him, gently and kindly and how it made you feel.

@Pamela Noelle thanks Pamela. That really helped. Yeah I have problems communicating too, especially about my feelings. Thanks again

personally if he’s looked and then gone… i want you instead of fantasing over another women. that’s loyalty and respect for you. men can’t help getting turned on but least he’s going straight to you! just remember he’s not using you. he’s CHOOSING you🥰

I do get what your trying to say. He got turned on by another woman, not you and then wanted to release his turn ons with you but not because of you. I wouldn’t like it if my man got horny over another woman period. But to then want to release your horniness over another woman, whilst inside of me…no thank you. He’s probably thinking of the woman shaking her ass whilst he’s inside of you. Most women will say “well ‘at least’ he’s not cheating and he’s coming straight to you instead of going elsewhere” but to me, that feels like I’m accepting the behaviour of him getting horny over another woman because there’s worse things he could do! Screw this! If I don’t like something, then I don’t like it. Period! It’s not about he could do worse things than that, it’s about not doing things that I don’t like and things that make me feel uncomfortable and the man respecting your wishes and your feelings.

@Courtney aw that’s nice way of putting it

honestly i’m big on not cheating , but with the internet and the world nowadays… your man gon see things you don’t want him too… like ur probs see things he doesn’t want you to too. if ya both choose eachother when seeing something that spikes interest then yall meant to be together. cuz that typa relationship is hard to come by. and real men who choose there partner over fantasies are the real keepers 🥰

@Monique this is exactly how my mind thinks. Totallly. That’s what deep down is annoying me, like one half of me likes that he still turns to me for sex, like I know lots of guys don’t even go to their wife and rather jerk off. But then the other half is like, it’s not gonna feel intimate for me because I know I’m just used for his pleasure rather than because he wants me sexually. That! That line “he’s thinking of that woman”, ugh girl we think alike. Like I never once did think of anyone else other than my husband. He really has no reason to be thinking about someone else