Baby refusing to eat solids

why did you wean so early?

@emily because most countries recommend to wean early on to avoid food allergies

that is a myth. the UK NHS says it is best to wait until 6 months

It doesn’t matter that she started weaning her baby at 4 months. Don’t feel ashamed of the situation though! My son is extremely fussy and chucks food over his high chair and recently because he’s poorly he’s refusing everything, it’s very very stressful and I also get anxiety around meal times because I want him to eat but he’s just not the best when it comes to food and it frustrates me! But I just keep telling myself that he’s not always going to be like this. There will come a stage ( hopefully soon) where he’ll get better

@emily the UK NHS. Pretty much all countries in Europe start at 4months. And what does that have to do with my post? Are you here to give me a lecture and make me feel guilty for weaning at 4months or are you here to be supporting another mom who needs it?

i am with a dietitian for my child for allergies and asked about trying all allergens early on to avoid her becoming allergic to anything else and they said that it doesn’t matter when you introduce them as it has no effect. not sure why you’d wean so early on if you weren’t advised to

@Lucy thank you so much Lucy. I am sure it will get better as we are trying so hard. It is reassuring to know that we aren’t alone. They are still so young! I wish you all the best, we got this 💪🏻🥰

@emily cool for you glad it worked out for you! Because I’m from another country where we do recommend and advise parents to start at 4months. And because I do a lot of research and do not make decisions based one one person’s advise, but everybody is different and I am not judging anyone for doing any different

i also did a lot of research so not sure what you are trying to imply. i’m just stating that you weaned too early.. if you take offence that’s not my fualt

@emily I am not trying to get feedback on weaning at 6months vs 4. I am glad we did it as our son does not have allergies, and we know from talking to specialists that this has nothing to do with the challenge we are currently facing. But I appreciate you sharing your experience though. I would just say be careful on this forum Lucy, because there can be moms really really struggling mentally. Sometimes more than we can ever imagine. Please do not make a mom or anyone you don’t know feel guilty, or tell them they did something wrong. We never know what people are going through and we need to communicate with care and kindness. I hope your son’s allergies will get better though!

I was absolutely advised to give allergens early so don’t worry! People trying to mum shame are so funny 😂

We weaned at 4 months are my son eats everything so it shows there’s no problem! All babies are different xx

@Laura awww I am so glad it is working well for you Laura !! Please enjoy the meal times for all the mamas here struggling 🤣xx

Sorry I didn’t mean it to sound like oh look at my son eating. Some days he eats it all and some days he throws it all on the floor. Was just trying to make a point that you shouldn’t feel ashamed xx

@Laura ahah don’t worry I know ! I am genuinely happy it is working for you 🤗

😂😂😂😂😂 go away

@Laura maybe you can give advice when you are sober

@emily I will babes. Have a lovely Sunday and have a glass of wine - might cheer you up xx

This must be so hard for you! Do you think you could hide the solids in like a puree pouch? If baba likes blended fruits etc do you think you could start off with chunks in it and then go from there? We weaned early too!!! Xx

@emily shut up being an arsehole. Dont like the post dont comment. Shame on you for trying to bring other people down

My friends baby was like this and hes just turned one in august. I found the best thing with him was to pop him with another baby thats a great eater a few times a week and they soon follow the lead with it. Fyi weaning at 4 months isnt a problem and if it was you cant turn back the clock now can you do wouldnt worry a dot about it 😊 Some people need to chill out and remember we are meant to be here as a 'village' helping each other when times are hard and need a sympathetic ear 🩵 my inbox is open if you need anything even just a rant ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Does baby sit with you and watch you eat? Even if baby isn’t eating at the time sit him down to watch you or do it in front of him while he is exploring. Try and do it for every meal. Also if he looks interested have a bite of it and then offer it to him. You could also take the pressure off completely (for you and for him). There is no harm taking a break from solids if he isn’t interested in it anyway. Leave it for a couple of weeks just eat in front of him and then reintroduce it. Meeting up with other babies that eat is also a great suggestion xx

I'm so sorry it's been so hard for you, please don't be ashamed at all. We started weaning early (also because we wanted to introduce allergens early on). Something that may help is trying to shift your mindset around mealtimes, think of it right now as something for them to explore rather than getting nutrition from. I try and think that way if we've had a tough one and everything has ended up on the floor. Also eating at the table with him like someone else suggested for him to observe what you're doing and take it all in even if he doesn't eat it himself. You're doing great and he'll get there eventually x

i’ve also weaned early and my LG can be the the same most of the times , i try hard not to stress it . just know things will get better Xx

We found ourselves in a similar situation. We tried everything, he sat at the table with us, he ate alone, he ate from his plate, our plates, the table, with other kids and without. We tried food before milk, we tried food chaining. All the things. Felt stupid and sad, was up all night feeding him. Everyone said it would get better when he started nursery but it just got worse when I couldn’t breastfeed in the day. He would turn his head and throw food in the high chair and sometimes even just cry as we put him in. We took him to a speech and language/feeding specialist who said this is super common behaviour in babies who experience some kind of discomfort when eating. GP referred to gastro, turns out he has silent reflux. He’s been on meds for a week and he eats now!! This is the person we saw https://www.instagram.com/feedeatspeak?igsh=YjJzc3Qwamt1bmRk she also has lots of tips on her page for free.

She told us there are lots of reasons for food aversion, it just happened that our sons was medical, but having someone watch what was happening was super affirming and helpful and though it’s not cheap it helped us figure out what to do and also isolate the problem.

All I can say is try and eat with them and show them you taking each bite and eating and enjoying it, maybe try giving them a piece of the food you're eating,they might get curious. Keep it fun while you try and get them to start eating then focus on proper meals

I find if I cook with my baby she's way more interested in trying stuff, it's not as bad as yours but we did go through a. Phase of her not wanting anything and this approach helped. I gave her little tastes as I was making stuff as well!