I need to vent

So I have a 5 month old, me and his dad broke up in the middle of August last year but were still messing around and I found out I was pregnant in September..so it’s been over a year since we met and the breakup..why did I find out three days ago that he’s been married since right before I told him I was pregnant..he’s illegal so he’s using her for a green card but I feel used to..(he said he couldn’t marry me because the spouse has to be 21 to start paperwork and I’m 19) like dude I thought we was working on us and a family and you have a wife regardless of the situation..I’m not mad, I’m hurt..I love him, literally my first love, father of my child and I’m just hurt..all this time he said he couldn’t rly be there because of his situation which I assumed was him being illegal but in reality his wife doesn’t even know he has a child..I am hurting so bad..I just wanted a family🤦🏽‍♀️I feel stupid..and he still wants me to feel bad for him..like he’s rly on some fuck my feelings and acknowledge his because he’s miserable and ain’t attracted to her but like dude..u hid it for a year..I love u even though I went through my whole pregnancy alone..I loved him even after he missed my c section..I loved him after waiting 5 months so far for him to rly step up and I’m stupid bc we were having a sexual relationship this whole time and he was going home to a wife..I’m kinda feeling depressed but ofc moms always gotta be strong for their babies🤦🏽‍♀️

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I’m sorry this happened to you especially being so young, but now that you know the truth you need to do what’s best for you and the baby! What he did was wrong to you and the wife and his wife needs to know! You need to focus on your baby and your health/mental health! I hope you have a good support system and sending love and prayers your way🫶🏽🫶🏽

That's horrible sweet girl 😢 I feel like you are a kind person who got used by a man with narcissistic tendencies... maybe I'm wrong but thats what it seems like from what you say. Let yourself feel that hurt and move through it. I'm sorry this happened. I hope your hurt turns into anger and helps you move away from this guy. Because he 100% doesn't deserve you! 100% You would never treat anyone that way and you deserve someone who respects you and your feelings and your love and sees your value as a woman and a mother. No time for games. No time for men messing with our emotions, not as moms smh so when someone messes with a moms wellbeing.. well that shit is personal 😕 makes me mad myself. Keep your head up tho girl I believe in you!

That is messed up.. you’re not stupid. He’s manipulative! And there’s no way you can know what’s going on in his mind. Don’t blame yourself for not knowing. And now he’s gaslighting you and trying to make your feelings irrelevant when he’s not bothering to care about what you’re going through. I pray you can recover and love yourself more than you love him because a man like that doesn’t just change and become a better man. He’s not a good person and you may have been spared by not getting to spend your life with someone who would do that to someone.

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