Advise…maybe? Guidance?
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@Cheyenne yes I would
Was it just once that you brought up marriage counseling?
@Le'Sha no, it’s been multiple times…
I personally think him driving to the court house would have been my last straw and I would probably just give up hope of having a better relationship. It seems he’s looking for a way out
What’s your response when he does it? My husband has threatened to divorce me for the better part of a decade and I always say do it and her we are still married. He’s never once done anything beyond saying the word divorce. If my husband actually drove to the courthouse I’d get out and start walking in lol 😂 like clearly he wants an out but he wants you to make the move. If he’s not willing to go to counseling then I’d be packing my bags and out the door. take a break go visit family or something. Get some space to think about what you want and how you could move forward if you decide to leave.
Perhaps you should try a break. If you have somewhere you could go stay there for a few nights. Either he is hot headed and not realising the weight of the words he is saying or he wants out but doesn’t want to be the one to do it. Either way you don’t deserve to live like this. Spend some time apart so you both can reflect on what you want. If being separate permanently is what’s best for you then leaving would be a very brave thing for you to do. My mom stayed in an unhappy marriage thinking it was what was best for everyone else. I wish she had seen that her happiness was our happiness sooner.
I definitely agree with other comments he wants out but wants you to make the first move. I do also think if he isn't willing to have help, you should let go, it's not fair on you to have to endure what he's putting you through emotionally and mentally, especially while being pregnant! I do in a way think he's attempting to threaten you to control you, but again, I don't know him or what type of guy he is 🤷🏻♀️
Do you think maybe he’s cheating? Maybe he’s looking for you to say OK let’s get this done so it’s easier. Driving to a court house is beyond me. His ass would be sleeping right at that building with his shit. & not in my bed. Do not stress yourself out take a few days at a family members home if you can. Unless he’s willing to step out for a few days. Which I don’t see why he wouldn’t he’s looking for a way out anyways. I’m sorry your going thru this :(
Definitely don’t need that stress when you are pregnant..do you have a support system? If you wanted to leave?