Still zero libido

I’m curious if anyone else is experiencing the same as I’m starting to panic! Ever since I became pregnant I lost all libido and it never came back after having my daughter - if anything it’s become worse! My partner is extremely understanding and patient but I myself also miss the intimacy and closeness between us. The problem is I just have zero interest. I have also struggled to accept the changes in my body post birth and I do believe this has some influence but overall I’m beginning to worry there’s something wrong with me. We both work full time hours and my partner works shifts which does make things a bit more challenging. We also have no family close by so we don’t have much support or help with our little one to give us a break. Any tips, advice or just knowing that people feel the same would help!

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Exactly the same here! I barely want a kiss from my husband but I still I love him so much and definitely still attracted to him but physical touch just is a no, we do have sex but not often (sometimes once a month!) I hate that I feel like this but it will slowly come back, I had the same with my first 9 years ago, just takes some time to want to want it, no point in forcing it as you’ll never get it back and you’ll see it as a chore, be kind to yourself it’s not even been a year and a half since childbirth 🩷 there are so many things you can try to build this up, massage, hand holding in bed, cuddles, leg tickles not all intimacy is sex xx

I’m exactly the same and worrying as well. I just have literally zero interest in it. I know it’s normal but I didn’t expect to still feel like this 16 months after my little boy was born

Could have written this myself. I am starting to panic my hubby will think it’s him- it isn’t, i still think he’s absolutely gorgeous, but i just have no interest. Between working full time- shift work, including nights, he also works full time shifts, literally never stopping, having a baby who barely sleeps & is constantly on the go, it is literally the last thing im interested in x

Exactly the same, however I’m single and actually quite happy. I feel like a libido would be frustrating whilst I’m fully raising my boy/cosleeping/spending all day everyday with him. I’m not sure what the doctors could do as the female libido is under researched (surprise surprise)! Maybe have a look into some dietary changes or trying to get some time to re charge alone (gym/swim/other hobbies) which may give your body some well needed rest and get those hormones back to the right place c

Totally relate. Haven't had sex in over 3 months now (longest it's even been) but I'm just so touched out and burnt out that the last thing on my mind is getting intimate. I'm so done in from having the kids be on me all day that come when they go to bed I just want to be left alone where I haven't got to see to anyone's needs. My partner gets it thank god as I send him stuff about being overstimulated, touched out etc. I love him to death, but just cba to put out 😱 It's only temporary though, so I remind myself and him of that xx

Same here! I have zero libido, even though I am extremely attracted to my husband. I think it’s due to a mix of things- my hormones still aren’t normal because my period hasn’t returned (due to breastfeeding and low BMI), I am so exhausted and touched out from caring for my son all day long, and my brain is full of baby/toddler care, not sexy stuff!

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