Classism in some women

I was introduced to a group of women when I moved to my new town. After the introduction, they seem to all have sized me and concluded I wasn't their type. One year gone, one ignoring my messages, the other replied to my questions after a week or more, letting me know she is busy, hence. Which I quite understand. Then one of them happened to be in my neighborhood and reached out. I said she could visit. She came, and now might have realised their class judging might have been wrong. They are reaching out for meet-ups and hangouts. Which I am not interested in. If I don't look like it at first, then I might not be it in my thought. Have you experienced women like this? How did you handle them?

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I’m sorry you had that experience, and I can see how it would make you hesitant now that they’ve come back around. It’s frustrating to feel judged or dismissed, only to have people try to reconnect when it seems convenient for them. I’ve definitely seen similar dynamics happen. If you’re not interested in rekindling the relationship, it’s perfectly okay to set clear boundaries. You don’t owe anyone your time, especially if you feel they didn’t treat you well to begin with. Politely declining invitations with a simple, “Thanks for reaching out, but I’m focusing on other things right now,” keeps it firm but respectful. If they misjudged you initially, it’s a reflection of them and not you. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Staying true to yourself means that the right people will connect with you because they value you for who you are, not just when they decide to give you a second look.

@Angel I love your words. I needed it to reassure myself that I am making a healthy decision.

Perfectly okay to decline.

Hi is it possible that they were busy? I know 1.5 years is long but depending on their babies ages I’m just able to start thinking about maintaining friendships after a difficult relationship and separation and single momming to 2 young boys? Idk I feel like in those days and age take the friends when and how they show up because it’s hard and lonely out here…

Sorry you had to deal with that. Ugh it’s annoying, keep them at an arms distance.

Lots of women and men are like this. I can't stand people like this. If you have them as friends then one wrong move and they won't be there anymore. Surround yourself with people who don't judge not people who are judgemental. I have a small amount of friend now as I don't associate with people who disrespect me or others

@Nicole Hi Nicole, thank you for your perspective. That might be possible. But, I don't understand why one would prefer ignoring messages instead of indicating that one is busy or overwhelmed. It can get lonely out here for sure. I do hope you are finding your feet. Wishing you the best ❤️

@Tayo Thanks for your words

@Nabila Thanks for your words.

@Kimberley Thanks for your words. It's quite unfortunate that it's becoming the norm.

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