Am I the asshole for not unblocking him

Baby dad was horrible during my pregnancy. Ruined the day I found out we were having a boy because and I quote ‘’why should I let you be happy today when you’ve made my life miserable for the next 18 years’’. He would block me for 5 weeks at a time, unblock, appear for a week then block again. After our son was born (emergency c-section) he blocked me again for two months which means he wasn’t there to go on the birth certificate. He came back and I placed down the boundaries ‘that he cannot come here late at night’, and ‘needs to be consistent’. We live opposite each other so he could pop over whenever he wants but he only does a Friday evening for a couple hours. So naturally I asked if he was over yesterday. After our conversation, he blocked me so I blocked him back. This time I won’t be unblocking. Both boundaries were crossed last night and I refuse to back down on them. I don’t ask for financial help. I just ask him to be involved in his son’s life. Am I an asshole if I don’t unblock him? I’m sort of over it all now. Our son doesn’t really react to him at all but no surprise as for 3/4 of his life he’s not been there and my eldest struggles with him around. The atmosphere is always tense and I don’t see any benefit to contact anymore.

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Keep him blocked. Same thing with my bd I blocked him n put him on CMS

Is he supposedly coming at 9pm to see his child? Is that his plan? Because no. I would keep him Blocked.

@Alyssa He’s always done this. Turned up late and got shitty that the baby is asleep 🤷🏻‍♀️ Which is why I won’t have him over late. That and if baby does wake up, he keeps him awake till he’s overtired, gets shitty that he’s crying then pisses off leaving me to be awake with LO most of the night.

Absolutely not. Keep him blocked

Keep him blocked don’t even let him come over again what kind of person is that? I’m guessing he doesn’t know 9pm is late what kind of common sense does he have? He’s childish completely toxic. If he behaves like this with you playing with your head. Blocking you unblocking you. That’s would put a strain on my brain. If he’s doing that to you imagine the kind of mental play he’s gonna do on your little baby. Your baby will think that’s ok that he comes and goes whenever he wants. We have to remember that kids are intelligent. Babies brains are like a sponge yes he won’t remember right now but I’m sure he can feel the tension. Best of luck to you mama. I’m sure you got everything under control! Much love!🫶🏻

Yeah definitely not. I would keep him blocked. He obviously is not that concerned with seeing his child or he would be there at a reasonable time. OF COURSE the baby is sleeping at 9pm. That’s crazy.

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