The godmother

So when I was about four months pregnant, I asked a woman I used to spend the school holidays with to be my baby's godmother. She said yes. About a month later, I had my baby prematurely and she visited two or three times. She bought some toiletries, food and clothes which I appreciated. She brought her second husband, who I've met a handful of times, to see the baby, without asking me if that was okay. My baby sadly passed away. I don't remember her calling to check on me. But she did send texts with basic things like: Good morning. OR How are you?. Multiple times but not much more, though she did say once: I'm off to the hairdresser's. No mention of my baby by using her name or attempting to get into a serious conversation about what had happened and how I was feeling. I texted her and gave her the day of my LO's funeral and she didn't respond to that date, instead she responded by saying she was free the day after that. I didn't want to let that avoidance slide. I responded to get a direct response: do you mean you can come on the day of the funeral and the day after or only the day after? Then she responded that she could make the funeral. Does this person like me?
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Firstly, crying for you. 💔💔💔 Some people don’t know how to feel about passings, however those responses do seem odd.

@Katrina i get that impression but she is a nurse by profession so you'd expect better.

Nurses are exhausted. Also she might be trying to spare you grief

I’m a healthcare provider & I exercise extra care and compassion in these type of situations especially. It’s always devastating

I wouldn’t say she dislikes you. It sounds like she doesn’t know what to say/ doesn’t want to bring it up and upset you. Sounds like she’s trying to give you space (rightly or wrongly). I’m sorry for your loss

So sorry for your loss this happened to my friend with her first baby and I honestly didn’t know what to say, I was scared of upsetting her further etc it was so hard

It is odd. She probably has no idea what to do or say. She's not needed as godmother any more. It sounds like you weren't all THAT close (unless I am misinterpreting) so maybe she isn't expected to be a part of your close support network in this time? I'm sorry for your loss ❤️ and I hope you have other people in your life who are better supporting you.

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