Partner doesn’t want me anymore

My partner has said he wants me but doesn’t want a relationship with me. We had our first baby in December 2023 and he wanted another straight away so fell pregnant within 2 months of having the first baby. He is now saying he realised it was a mistake and that he wishes he didn’t have kids or get married. He says he wants to do what he wants when he wants and not have to answer any questions. He is saying he is depressed and everything is too much. I am due to give birth in 2 weeks. What would you do or what should I do? I’m in shock and don’t know what to think.

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Could this be a defence mechanism and is he pushing you and the kids away so he doesnt have to confront his emotions regarding his depression, if i was you i would do my best to make sure he is addressing his mental health and doing what he can to improve it (reaching out for help, talking to friends etc) and see if that helps, if it doesnt then you need to put yourself and the kids first xx

@Sophie I have told him many times in the past to speak with a therapist but he never does. He basically also wants to be able to go out at what ever times he wants and do what he wants without having to answer to someone.

Aw im sorry to hear that, must be so hard for you, try to put yourself first x

He needs a therapist. He’s not well. And also grow the fuck up. I’m sure every mom wished for a moment to be free and not have any constraints and then you stop thinking dumb and just be grateful for what you’ve got. What kind of man and father tells this to his baby moms.

Errrmmmm, excuse me but it’s way too late for him to think that he wants “to do whatever he wants whenever he wants”. He’s a dad now and even if you guys don’t continue in a relationship/marriage he’s still a father and is still responsible for both of your children. Yes he could be depressed but to me it sounds more like someone who just wants to go a live his life without the responsibility of being a father/husband. If he’s really depressed he needs therapy tho. But he’ll still need to get his shit together and act accordingly. You’re about to give birth and it must be awful to be in this situation, I am so sorry.

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I would just file for divorce and leave if my husband said that to me

He needs a therapist. If you have parents that you can stay with I would see about doing that and telling him to get help. Single parenting is not easy but it sounds like he needs some serious help and if you do have him around you’ll end up doing all the work anyways and you may have a rough post partum because of it.

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