Intimacy with partner

Hi all, My partner and I currently feel like house mates, we get along well but our intimacy/sex life has been non-existent for a couple of months now. We never had big sex drives before getting pregnant but now we both have said we don’t fancy it ever really. However, i feel a bit sad about this, even though i also don’t want it i do want the intimacy and closeness back and worried the longer we leave it the harder it will be to get back. He said last night now i have a bump and we feel baby kick that it feels weird and he’s not sure he’ll want it again until after baby’s born! 🫣😦 I feel a bit shit really, for me sex brings me closer to my partner and i feel like we’re going to drift leaving it so long and end up just being friends with a baby rather than partners/lovers. Any advice how to get that spark back? Even flirting/making out is rare these days, sighhh 😔 *also, hard to feel sexy and in the mood when i am tired and achey, leaking boobs and my lingerie barely fits me now!*

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@Annie yep i agree, hence rather sort it now and try keep some sort of intimacy going during pregnancy, than wait until baby is here and be even less in the mood probably! ☹️

@Emily Timbrell it says you’ve commented but i can’t see it for some reason 😕 not ignoring you!

Sounds similar to me and my husband. I want to do it because I want to feel close but I don't have much libido at the moment.. my husband last time didn't push much while pregnant but I want to feel close. We get on too, do stuff all the time together

I’d say remember there are other ways to be intimate without being sexual. Massages, even talking on a deeper level can help bring you back together. I tend to feel distanced from my partner even with regular sex, like were room mates who have sex occasionally. Having a deep meaningful conversation and discussing how much we love each other and want to be with each other definitely helps us x

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