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Well if they true friends they shouldn’t. I feel you could be going through depression but unsure because stress can also just cause all this I sometimes feel this way girl if u ever need talk just message me. U can come vent all the time and I’ll read and even listen too you even if u wanna call
They have one specifically for kids that I would be curious to checkout. They have an app called everand that is amazing, it’s one monthly fee and you can listen to unlimited amounts of audiobooks. Are you doing enough for yourself. I’m sure there’s a little bit of fomo when your husband takes the kids out (and you guys should have family time together outside of the house), but try not to always go, take the time to yourself. Maybe try to schedule in some weekly time whether it’s Brunch with your friends or grocery shopping alone or something you can do to get out of the house, be alone and enjoy yourself. I’m taking a salsa class right now. There is a saying sometimes it isn’t that you are doing too much (which we usually are), it’s that you aren’t doing enough of what you love. You aren’t “watering yourself”. And have you considered that maybe it might be time to go back to work? Or to get some outside help? Only you know your finances, desires, wishes, needs, e
Only you know your finances, desires, wishes, needs, etc surrounding being a sahm, working while they are young, hiring a nanny or a house cleaner, etc but it’s something to think about. Could you maybe go back to work and get them in daycare? Or could you hire a housekeeper to help with cleaning or maybe find a mother’s helper to come play with them for a few hours a week. Do you take them to activities? Lifetime gym has been a game changer for me because I can work out and my kiddo can go play and they have legit classes for 3 year olds - gymnastics, martial arts, etc. all included for one price. It’s a bit expensive, but you can go up to 2 hrs a day everyday for that price. More than worth its weight in gold. Edge is similar but a lot cheaper if you have one of those near you. And I think edge has a bike movie studio. I would not feel bad about getting some me time, even if it is to do some bookkeeping or or to read a book in the hot tub or watch a movie
There’s a lot of free local activities if you look online and moms groups where you can connect with other women in similar scenarios. I feel like that helps sometimes. Meetup, Facebook, may find events on eventbrite. And then of course the groups that post events relevant to you will be hyper local, so you would have to ask around your circles to find them.
@Lillie I'm definitely overwhelmed and stressed out o. Days like these. It's not like this every day but these are the bad days. Is calm mama a podcast? Or on Spotify? And yes I know my toddler is just being a toddler and doesn't understand her emotions or behavior sometimes either and I want to do better which is why I hate days like these. I am going back to work because we are falling behind on our finances plus I miss working and also think of it as "time to myself" but days like these stress me out. I also take my kiddos to the library maybe twice a week lol I think the library is tired of seeing us
@Monica Bethann Johnson thank you that honestly made me feel better
Your welcome it gets hard these days :)
Hey omg I read your post and I just can so relate I have a 5, 3, and 1.5 year old and previously taught kindergarten for 4 years but became a sahm when my husband went to grad school and I was just beyond drained come dinner time and when he got home he was also and I felt like I was just doing everything and we were slowly growing further apart. Because I taught kindergarten and have a degree in special and general education it thankfully came in handy for some tips to help me not yell keep all three kids under control and happy and truly be able to enjoy the time with them. I would love to share some things that worked and made my life so much easier! Just pm me
Have you considered talking to someone. You could have post partum depression or you could just be overwhelmed with everything going on. Awhile back I listened to the calm momma program and it’s not fool proof but it does come up with a lot of solutions for simplifying life at home surrounding meals, clothes, cleaning, etc. If I remember correctly her husband is a pilot and travels a lot during the week and she’s a sahm and she talked about connecting with her children without getting angry and setting boundaries and meditating, etc. I think it’s def worth a listen. And I think you have to do a major mind shift. It has been incredibly hard for me as well. She is not be attention seeking, she’s being connection seeking. She’s not trying to misbehave, she’s feeling left out or not getting her needs met. We always think about needs as eating, sleeping, etc. but there are social and emotional needs as well. The 5 love languages are a great read when you have time.