Are your partners engaging in your pregnancy as you expected it?
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@Abi thank you for taking your time to answer!!!! 😊 we are also at the same stage of pregnancy! Having our babies on February! 🩵 Okay, you are very right, I think the idea of writing a letter is a great and I will do it! I think as we are pregnant and our body and brain is going through lots of changes, both physical and biochemicals (producing the hormones that make us have the mother instinct) we are more aware that things are not the same, they are still in their normal world 😅 but that doesn’t excuse them! I am sorry you also went through the same but I am happy he realised he needed to change! I’ll do the letter thing 🫶🏻
Very few males across the animal kingdom are involved in the pregnancy stage if you need more from your spouse you need to make that very clear men do not experience pregnancy like we do aside from it being factual knowledge they have that we are pregnant it's important to communicate that you need him to be more involved in the pregnancy stage I'm 36 weeks along I was no chair truck driver and my boyfriend still is an OTR truck driver he is not involved in the pregnancy and because of our jobs until I went on maternity leave trying to sync up our schedules so that he could be an appointments was impossible so he only made it to one appointment he's super excited about our son but at the pregnancy stage there's not any reality linking him to what's going on
My partner has been amazing. Not letting me do much, coming to hospital appointments and scans, but he didn't see the need to come to midwife appointments. He hasn't been touchy feely with the bump as he says it freaks him out, he's over the moon about our son. And he said he will be alot different when he's here.
Thanks for sharing this, my experience is very similar. I heard the same stories from my friends. I think men in general can't emotionally connect to the baby before it's born and they don't completely get how we are feeling. I keep telling my husband and hoping he will get it eventually. Feeling lonely is a horrible feeling. You can always message me on here if you want a chat x
Omg it’s like I wrote this myself!! I have the most amazing husband and everything was the same as you’ve said for us too. He was definitely more into having a baby etc. And don’t get me wrong I am elated to be having a baby, but yeah the emotional side just wasn’t there. Never asked about the baby etc. I would be in tears on the phone to my mum and it got to the point where she actually sent him a message just to raise her concerns for me and it prompted us to have a slightly uncomfortable, but civil conversation about it. Since then, he’s been amazing and really making an effort. Sometimes you’ve just got to put yourself in the uncomfortable situation and get things off your chest. I actually wrote all my issues down for him to read before I got home from work to give him time to digest everything before having a chat. Here if you want to talk any more about it because it’s literally exactly the same situation I had! Xx