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Sorry to hear his done this to you, I stayed with someone who done it to me and he continued twice more. Unfortunately once the trust has gone it’s hard to get back. But believe your strong and can tackle what ever route you choose x
*hugs* I know a lot of people will tell you to leave. I got the same advice. I found out my husband was cheating when our daughter was almost 2. She's 3 now, and we're having our second. I had to make couples counseling and individual counseling for him non-negotiable. I do think cheaters can change because I was a cheater before I met my husband.. But I've never heard it's impossible to heal in the same place you got hurt. That speaks to me. My husband switched jobs and work schedules to see me more often and be more helpful with our daughter. We took an income hit, but it was worth it to save our marriage. I wouldn't do anything this moment as you're about to have a baby.. sit with it and see how your husband treats you and helps with the baby.
Sorry you have to go through this. My ex and baby daddy cheated on me when I got pregnant as well. Tried to make it work but it wouldn’t. I highly recommend you get out as soon as you can because I was never able to fully forgive him and he didn’t improve however everyone’s different and you have to make the best decision for you. I’m with someone who loves my daughter as his own and I am so happy I left. It was hard at first but in the end worth it. Just think would you want your son or daughter with someone like that?
Only you know if it’s worth it. My partner cheated on me and had been the whole relationship but I didn’t find out until after I was already pregnant. I tried to make it work with him bc he is the father of this baby and he completely lied in couples therapy and dropped out of this baby’s life and abandoned us. I feel like if you both work on your relationship there’s a possibility and hope but he has to be willing to change and be honest especially about struggles and you have to be willing to work on any anger and moving forward. I’m not here to tell you what to do bc you know and only you know what’s right for you. And only you know your partner as well as you do and your relationship. I will say personally I regret staying with my baby’s dad just bc he was the dad, and trying to make it work. I regret it bc he disrespected me and by staying with him it was me allowing that disrespect. I was also so scared of raising my first and only kid (right now) alone and being a
Single mom, but I feel free now. I feel sad and angry still but free from his drama and disrespect. Above all else I wish you the best. This is a sucky situation and im so sorry he put you in your position.
@Addison this isn’t my post ofc but I really enjoyed hearing a lil of your story. Gives me personally a lot of hope for being a single mom and meeting someone who will love my kid someday. Thank you for sharing this. It genuinely helped me personally 🫶🏻🫶🏻
@Carly awe of course! I’m glad my story helped. It came least expected it’ll happen !
listen girl sorry to say this but once a cheater always a cheater just leave you and your child will be okay it will get a big weight off your back Leave himmm!!! cus when he cheated he knew what he was doing and didn’t care about you and the baby
just remember when you stay with some one that cheats on you, your mind will constantly run regardless if they try to restore what they broke. if you’re mind is constantly in the negative you can’t be the best mother you’re capable of being. that’s how i view it and how i viewed it when a lot happened with my daughters father.