My husband doesn’t wear a wedding band
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Ah, I was thinking this was going to be something bad or suspicious. But regardless, you're allowed to feel that way about it! Is it not possible to still get bands and at least have them? Also, what about a silicone ring for him? Maybe it wouldn't feel as weird or off-putting to him. My fiancé is an electrician so instead of him metal band he wears a silicone one and they have pretty cool looking ones for men and women! I would even wear one since I have a toddler and am about to have a newborn, but it's kind of hard to find a silicone ring in a size 3 for my ridiculously tiny finger. Also, if you get bands, can he not wear his ring on a chain when you go out for dates or with friends? Like could he manage wearing a collared button down shirt, and wear the thin chain with the ring around his neck? My fiance wore his metal band on a chain until the chain broke, he still would but I just haven't gotten a new chain.
@Rachel Yes I have told myself it doesn’t matter because WE know we’re married. And ofc I respect the fact that he has sensory issues which is why I’ve never pushed.
@Clarissa yes we’ve looked into silicone rings since my brother in law has one he wears in place of his silver one since he’s a mechanic. Throughout our relationship he’s never had any jewelry and I never thought too much about it until we talked about getting him a watch. He loves them but can’t wear them. We even got matching pendants when we were dating (he got them) but his sits on his nightstand since he can’t wear any type of jewelry. He thought it was a good idea but it literally brothers him so much. Honestly the more I write the more I feel bad for feeling bad. I just don’t know how to get over it 😕 He’s such a wonderful man
I think you need to work on getting over this tbh. He sounds like a good man who really can't help it. It's ok to feel sad about it for a bit but you need to get over it as it doesn't sound like it's going to change without significant discomfort to your husband who you adore. So I think you need to move on! All this with the caveat that I don't have sensory issues but still rarely remember to put on my wedding ring. I'm very committed and very faithful.
10 years in and i stopped wearing mine because my fingers are now too big for the ring
Even if he isn’t going to wear it it might be nice for you guys to get them because then you can wear yours and know he has it?
I don't wear my wedding set because most of the time it feels really tight even though there's room in between my finger and the rings but my husband doesn't wear his either because it doesn't fit properly he has big knuckles and then a thin finger so it just spins plus he works with machines and could possibly get stuck in one so I'm okay with him not wearing it
Your feelings are valid. It's a personal opinion thing. But it wouldn't bother me too much. You guys know you're married. It seems like the reason makes sense and not just because he doesn't want to look married or whatever. I only wear my band and sometimes I take that off for awhile if it's bothering me. I'm not a jewelry person either.