Fiancé is emotionally cheating
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If he’s sleeping in the spare room and saying you’re on a break and spending every evening with her it does lead me to think he is starting a relationship with this person, I wouldn’t be so sure there is nothing intimate happening either, it sounds like he’s trying to do it gently as he knows you’re nearly due , so sorry you’re going through this xx
He is behaving like a huge loser. What a jerk! It sounds like he's prioritizing his own happiness in the moment over supporting and being loyal to his fiance who he got pregnant. Ugh!!! So upsetting! I would be absolutely livid if I were you. No "crisis" justifies cheating on the person you are having a baby with! I'd be telling that man in no uncertain terms just exactly what he should and should NOT be doing if he wants to have any kind of future with you. I don't have any helpful advice. I just want you to know that what he's doing is so not ok!
I am so sorry you’re going through this. Especially while pregnant. We accept the love we believe we deserve. The fact that he’s putting you through this speaks volumes about him, and what you are tolerating speaks of your mental health rn. I suggest you find a therapist ASAP. Better to have one before giving birth than to go through postpartum depression alone and without tools to help yourself and baby. My other suggestion and not less important is to not put his name on the certificate. Just don’t. I’m not saying that he will be the kind of person to give you trouble but you will need the freedom to decide what to do with your own life and baby without a person that’s putting your family on break because he connected with and old friend. Also, don’t tell him you’re doing that and set the certificate to be delivered to your mom’s or some close friend’s house. Ask him to call you by your name, call him by his even if it’s hard. Protect your energy and understand that a…
A child doesn’t keep a man. I imagine this is both your first child, and he’s acting like this. Men will really change for the women they want. See how he stopped sleeping in the same bed as you? And all other subtle and not so subtle changes? I’m not trying to hurt you btw. I honestly wish I was there to give you as much support as I can. My partner did something similar to me during my pregnancy and I stayed stuck in this never ending miserable story until last week. I wish someone told me to leave in my last trimester or right after giving birth.
He's putting his energy into the wrong thing. You two already know each other, you've got a child on the way, the love usually becomes more calm/quiet because you're used to each other but someone new? It's all exciting, it's new, it's different, I'm sure we can all remember the 'honeymoon' faze and how nice/perfect it feels. It sounds like he's pulling away from you and putting his energy into this new exciting thing when realistically, if you're going to work he needs to cut this off and focus on you/your relationship and building it back up.
@Alex she’s probably “the one that got away” that illusion of what could’ve been of our lives together. But we’re adults and understand that love is a decision. There’s always going to be a person that you feel attracted to, that’s normal. If you look around, people are beautiful. Even the ppl I don’t find very attractive, are still very attractive to someone else. But he has a family, they have tried for kids before and are finally in the last days/weeks before having they’re baby in their arms.
He needs to grow up and see that this it a very crucial time. The baby feels everything you feel and I hate that I was so stressed and sad during my pregnancy and I hope my baby didn’t suffer but his actions don’t add up to his words. Sleeping in a different bed I understand you need space but that on top of going out and getting what he doesn’t think you can give him is wrong
His behaviour is quite frankly, fucking VILE. You're pregnant and he's now deciding to have a mid life crisis?! Nope! He is emotionally cheating, but by telling you that you're "on a break" helps him to justify it to himself, what a prick! Do yourself a favour and kick him out now! As trust me, when baby arrives and you're feeling anxious and overwhelmed you will NOT want him anywhere near after this shitshow! Xx
Any man that puts you through hell while carrying their child HATES you. He should be making things easier and creating lifelong memories with you! You NEVER forget how a man made you feel during pregnancy. Do yourself a favor and leave now! Take it from me, you will never forget this or totally get over it no matter how good he is to you afterwards. Sending you strength, girl! You got this!!! fuck him and his midlife crisis!
Cheating is cheating, and it hurts equally whether it's physical or otherwise. My husband did the same, speaks to these 'friends' all hours of the night and during the day at work instead of coming up to see me and his daughter. Instead of calling us to make sure I'm okay when I repeated told him I wasn't. I gave birth 5 months ago, and I moved out two months ago. You and your child don't need that sort of instability. Now, he wants therapy when I begged for it months ago. It was hard at first but I'm getting there. Everyone says do it for the baby, try for them, stay for them. But then what? You stay for the kid and you're right back where you were, disrespected and unappreciated. Just my take. I hope you figure out what's right for you and your baby.