I feel like a jerk and I'm not able to shake the feeling
She woke up motn crying and instead of going right to a bottle I put a pacifier in and it calmed her but she still stirred a while, moving, sucking on the paci... I have this anxiety and mom guilt about depriving her food but as a ftm I'm just trying to see and understand middle of the night wakings. She still small and so I just feel like shit I should have done the bottle instead 😩 I'm just so angry at myself and wish I understood and knew better at this stage.
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Our doctor kept telling us to keep trying with the dummy rather than instantly going to a bottle as you can over feed them. Unless she’s due a feed keep trying with the dummy as the sucking can soothe them until they’re ready for their next feed
If she settled back down with the dummy, she wanted soothing not a feed. Trust me, if baby was hungry, she'd have screamed blue murder until she was fed. You're doing great, momma.
You are defo doing great. I'm struggling to tell the difference between active sleeping and crying for food. If your little one is pooing and weeing normally and putting on weight you are not depriving her of food. It's a learning curve and you've got this xx
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Motherhood is learning for everyone. If you didn't try the pacifier first you wouldn't of known if maybe she just needed soothing. Font feel guilty she got fed she wasn't starved x