When to stop trying?
Hi everyone ❤️
I have a 3.5 yr old son who is my absolutely everything. He was born after 3 ectopics, 1 early loss & 2 rounds of IVF so I realise how lucky I am to have him.
I'm completely infertile so a potential 2nd child was always going to have to be IVF conceived. We had another FET in March this year which sadly ended in a chemical pregnancy. We then paid our clinic for another round & meds which have just sat there. I feel like every month I've been putting it off as we had events etc.
Now I'm at the stage we can do it I'm just not sure I want to. I feel so guilty for not being 100% all in to give my son a potential sibling. Would it be so bad to just have one child? I worry for his childhood & him being lonely.
I'm also now thinking about my age 36 & my partner is nearly 41, we're already "old" parents to my son.
I feel like I've finally got a little bit of me back after this summer & letting my hair down. I'm so torn between having another round, another potential fail 😭 or just throwing all my energy into giving my son the best possible childhood as one & being the best version of me.
TIA xx
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If you don't want another kid, don't have one. Don't feel guilty about not giving your child siblings. There's nothing wrong with that. Having loving parents is all they need.
You already paid the clinic for another round of what? Egg retrieval or FET? It’s totally up to you if you want another child or not. Depending on if you still have embryos or will have to do another Egg retrieval I would say wait with the FET, if you are not ready and consider the egg retrieval sooner than later for an eventually later FET. Either way it’s up to you 🫶
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I only plan on having one kid… I don’t really think you should have more than one kid just to give your kid a sibling. I mean I get it… but you should just have as many kids as you can handle in my opinion