how to keep my bd away from our kid
i’m currently 17wks with my baby boy. i found my bd was cheating then he decided he didn’t wanna be with me, then came back, but i don’t want him. even when we were together i was afraid of letting him take care of the baby because he is 17 years old and incredibly immature. his family is also terrible. his father is a narcissist and so is he. his mother is an addict.
i’m terrified of leaving my baby in an environment with any of those people. i’m thinking of not putting him on child support and never taking a paternity test so he has nothing to use against me to get near my baby. i want to move states to get away from him, but he’s talking about moving to where all my family is from WHICH IS WHERE I WANTED TO GO. i’m so afraid. i want to be so far away from him because of all the abuse he put me through. i’d hate to see my kids suffer at his hands like this.
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I’d just keep your delivery secret. Move if you can so he doesn’t know where you are. And don’t tell anyone when you go into labor so it can’t get back to him. And don’t list anyone as the dad on the birth certificate. Just tell them unknown. 🤷🏼♀️ if he’s 17 I doubt he has the money to take you to court and fight for custody. But if he does save everything he says to you, so you can show the type of person he is.
If you don’t put him on the birth certificate he has no rights to ur baby. You’re free to do whatever you please.
You can definitely do not need to involve him. Dissapre sweet heart.
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Honestly this is exactly what I did. I was 15 when I had my son. I was with his sperm donor at the time but he was in jail. So he was not listed on the birth certificate (thank god lol, I was upset about it at that moment but now I’m like thank the good lord!) so I’m the only one listed. We were on and off for years. Then when my son had just turned 3 I was done with the abuse and couldn’t do it anymore so I left. And I just never took him to court for child support. So there is no paternity established. I’ve never received a penny from the man and I don’t want to. We moved out of town when my son was 5 (I lived with my mom when we broke up then moved out on my own 2 years later) I’m still in the same state but hours away. My son will be 14 on the 15th of October. I literally just left and never looked back. 🤷🏼♀️ luckily he’s also never tried to take me to court for visitation. Feel free to message me if you need to vent or talk. 🩵