After how many days of NO SUCCESS of using the potty would you give up on potty training for a while?
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Don’t give up! It definitely took us a couple months!
@Cassie it took months before you had any success at it?? I dont know if I can handle months of cleaning up pee... I've got a almost 9 month old too, who is semi mobile. So keeping up with the toddler peeing on everything is already a lot, much less keeping the infant from crawling through a puddle if I miss it... 😪
Are you carrying him to the potty while he’s in the middle of peeing? Do you think he’s making the connection that that’s where pee is supposed to go? It’s possible he may not be ready. A lot of kids aren’t until after 3. I don’t think you’re “late” if he’s not potty trained by this age. Do you think he’s showing the signs of readiness but just not making the connections or recognizing the feelings in his body? Or just not ready right now?
@GMF if I catch him in the middle of peeing I will carry him to the potty, but majority of the time I don't catch him time. I think he makes the connection, cause I bring him with me whenever I go, and explain that the potty is where we go. He's showing a lot of readiness signs, and has been since he turned 2. He is interested in the potty, will flush it after I or my husband go, he fights diaper changes, and will throw his own dirty diaper away once he's changed. I've tried potty training for a week or two at a time three times already, and this go round makes four. It just isn't sticking, and I don't know if he truly just isn't ready or if I'm doing something wrong.
Are you not using diapers or anything. I would still have the diaper on so pee doesn’t go anywhere. Put I would maybe do like right after waking go to the bathroom or every like 30 min to an hour or something. We havnt started yet. But i definitely don’t think I want to do the no diaper. Because i don’t want to clean up pee either
@Jenna it took months to be where we could ride in the car and do naps with no pull up. We used books about the potty and read them every night at bedtime, and we let her be without bottoms 24/7 in the house. The first week or so, we just pushed fluids and sat her on the potty every 15-20 mins. And she was given a treat every time there was a success. We also put the kid potty in the main area she would be playing in so she didn’t have to go far. With my son, we used stickers inside the potty and they’d change colors and stuff when you pee on them. But that was to teach peeing standing up.
@Jenna I wonder if he’s getting confused about going back and forth? Like if you’re stopping and putting him back in diapers. I know different potty training guides work for different kids. I know Big Little Feelings, Nurtured First, Oh Crap, Dr. Becky all have various guides. The Dr. Becky one worked really well for my son. I wonder if any of the guides have some good troubleshooting info as well. Because like you said it does seem like he has signs of readiness.
Definitely don't give up, 3 days is not enough time for some and I think it depends how you're going about it. I highly recommend getting a book/detailed method and sticking with it.
We potty trained at 2.5 years and it took a week. I bought training pants. I have hardwood floors so that helped a lot. We rewarded her whenever she went potty on the toilet
We finally had our first success!!!!!!! He got a sucker for it!!! Hopefully this is a step in the right direction and not a one hit wonder 😅
I've really appreciated underware that has a water resistant layer- it will still leak out over time / sometimes go out the legs, but it helped to cut down on some messes and he felt wet and uncomfortable vs pull ups or diapers they don't even know they went. It wasn't until we started using underware that we got a pee dance and consistsnt willingness to sit when he had to go. It also made outings easier so we didn't feel trapped at home. Most importantly it helped me stay calm, over reacting (positively or negatively) can add a lot of pressure. We have had a challenging potty journey, but it's getting way better. None of the conventional (or unconventional) advice worked for us. Sometimes they just have to make up their mind it's what they want to do.
I had better luck with using the actual toilet instead of the mini toilet. I bought a new lid that has the smaller insert and she really took to that bc it’s where I sit. Once she was potty only then did she start to use the mini toilet 😂 I also used m&ms for her reward :)
I would just keep the potty out where he can see it and get used to it and hold off on trying for a while. Sounds like he’s not quite ready. We started twice and held off both times, the third time she went with it so it seems like when they’re ready they will just go for it.
I've decided to hold off on potty training for a bit still! He just doesn't seem interested right now. Will reevaluate closer to 3 unless he suddenly shows an interest.