Sex or lack of it?

Hey everyone, Just wanted to see if anyone experiencing similar. Since I hit about 6months or just before, sex hasn’t really been on the table. It’s not because I don’t want it, it’s more my partner finds it weird. Is anyone else going through the same? We’ve had so many conversations about it and I’ve just had to accept the fact I’m not getting any until baby comes. Obviously I don’t want to pressure him or make him feel like he has to as that’s not right or how I want him to feel. I’m just struggling as it’s one of the things that makes me feel connected to my partner.
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Wen were like this in my second pregnancy. He just felt odd about it. Had felt baby moving during, and it just put him off! He didn't want to cause any damage and stuff and just said it all felt a bit wierd. It did make me feel a bit put out, but we stayed connected in other ways. Massages, kissing, cuddles, just making sure we always snuggled up on the sofa of an evening, hand holding etc. And then sexy time was generally mutual masturbation, or oral . I felt bad because he didn't want it when I was pregnant and then when babynwas here and he was ready to go. I couldn't think of anything worse 🤣🤣 so swings and roundabouts lol

I haven't personally experienced this but from what I've seen on here/heard it's quite common. I think they get in their heads about a baby being in there, especially if they can see movement, it can make them uncomfortable. Without pushing him to do it, maybe suggest different positions where the bump isn't as visible? Or focus more on toys/foreplay? Obviously if he doesn't want to at all, like you've said yourself that has to be respected so maybe try to find different ways to connect? Might be beneficial for once baby is here too due to healing/lack of personal time.

See I'm the one that gets in my head about it! Baby moves about ALOT and is very reactive to everything going on around him so when he starts kicking about due to well, all the movement😭, I feel awkward! I've also had a super low libido the entire pregnancy though

Think this is normal, my partner is the same. I can’t really blame him I look and feel like a whale 😂 it is tough mentally when I feel down about myself but I think we have to respect their feelings on it and I can definitely see where he’s coming from, although not too nice for us! X

I'm low-key worried my Husband finds me too attractive pregnant and trying not to get a complex about whether he'll love my non-pregnant boobs as much 😂

Yes we’re the same, not really doing it at all anymore due to him respectfully finding it abit strange. X

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