losing myself

I’m so sorry I been in your spot still feel that at times I hit post partum depression bad after my daughter was born

I’m sorry to hear this. My daughter is 17 months and I feel the same. Before I know it I r totally put myself on the back burner. I don’t work out, get my nails hair or eyebrows done anymore etc. I don’t go out much by myself. It all happens so fast and I’ve just told myself I’m gonna dig myself out of this hole slowly. Gonna slowly start incorporating things back. It’s definitely harder bc you’re pregnant again now but you can still start small and try to keep those things. This time, you know what you’re in for a little more and you’ll be more prepared. Youve got this 💪🏼

If you have family that you trust to baby sit , do that so you can go spend time with yourself or friends . You gotta figure out what you enjoy doing .

Or simply just find something you use to do that you loved and see if it brings you the same joy before kids

Hang in there, Elliz. You’re doing amazing. All the hard work you’re putting in now will pay off handsomely later on. One way to think about losing yourself is that you’re on a journey of reinventing who you are and rising from the ashes like a phoenix. The self you have lost is going through a transformation. You might soon discover that you are in the process of becoming a new you. One tip is to try reframing and finding ways to create a positive narrative, letting go of expectations, and identifying new ways to define who you are as a woman, mother, wife, friend, sister, …. Congratulations on being pregnant again. Life is super short and time passes by super quickly. Finding ways to enjoy the now will leave you feeling empowered and give you a lot of beautiful memories. Fast forward 5 years from now and you might be grateful that you were there for your little ones as a stay at home mom.

It will definitely get harder but it’ll eventually all smooth out. I’ve been a SAHM for 5 years and just had another baby 5 months ago. It’s tough… you’ll have your days that you will cry and then you’ll have happy days too. Try to enjoy them while they're young! Once they get older, you can't rewind time 🥹 and that's me taking my own advice as well.

Or try to change your mind set. Like one friend told me. We are privileged. And it's new you. The level up one 💕 one step a time. Little things that give you joy. I understand it's hard sometimes to let go.(Of your old you. ) Sending big hugs. Hope you're gonna feel better soon ❤️ 😇

I was just starting to get back to finding me when I got pregnant again. My second is now 5 months. It sucks how kids when young take all your time and energy so it feels like you have nothing left for you. But it is a season. This too will pass. I am trying to make my peace with mostly putting myself on the back burner and surviving for now knowing they need me now and it won’t be forever.

Or you can eliminate that concept of “letting go of the old you” (which I dislike). Just because you have more responsibilities (a new baby), doesn’t mean you have to “let go of any part of you”. With babies brings knowledge to “become a better you”. Once they get to a certain age, you will slowly start feeling like your old self again with perks of wisdom! Trust me, it takes time. Enjoy the beautiful moments infront of you and take lots of pictures. They grow so fast 🥹

Sorry you’re feeling this way but also think it’s kinda normal. I stayed home for 3 years with my daughter and felt the same. I wasn’t looking for work but a job presented itself to me and I took it. I’m working five mornings a week and I absolutely love it. Feel happier than I have in a very long time ❤️