I dont love my boyfriend anymore

We've been together for a little over 3 years. Im not entirely sure when i stopped loving him. I had our baby this time around last year and since December i have realized i dont love him. I've been trying to get feelings back but nothing is working. I tried to leave him in February but he said he hated me and never wanted to see me or our son again. It hurt me hearing that so I've just stayed trying to make work. I love him as a bestfriend I'm just not in love with him anymore. I dont want to lose him and i dont want our son to grow up without him because of me. Over time he has realized i dont because EVERY day he is asking me every 5 seconds and constantly questioning if im cheating on him (im not). Hes so negative towards me all of the time and even when i try to make him happy he still ends up being rude to me. Im scared if i leave he'll completely abandon our son and turn to drugs again. Im the reason he works hard and stopped doing drugs that were killing him. I cant leave knowing it will ruin his life. Im just miserable in this relationship. He hasnt ever treated me the way i want to be, even after ive explained to him several times. He doesnt look after himself so im no longer physically attracted to him. He has hurt me so many times. I sacrificed so much for him. He has held me down for years and i hate the life i have. Idk how to leave him, we're both clearly unhappy. The difference is he will let his life fall apart if i leave. I cant do it knowing its my fault.

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it’s sounds like leaving would be the best thing for you and your son bc if doesn’t wanna see his own son bc he got dumped what kind of father is that anyway also do what makes you happy

Immaturity is showing, it’s best if you leave. You need to be the best version of yourself for your son! If your son’s father, your baby daddy doesn’t want to see your son all because you left him. That shows what kind of father he is. Don’t force a man to be a father.

It’s better your son see one happy parent then 2 unhappy ones if he chooses to never see your son just because of a break up he’s a terrible dad anyways none of it is your fault he is a grown man with free will and he knows right from wrong do what makes you happy don’t spend another second misserable life is short

Me saying this may or may not help but I feel like it’s necessary, because I was in a similar situation. I really felt as if I didn’t love him the same anymore but we had just moved in together, and I just had a feeling leaving him would backfire as I wanted the family unit I never had. Anyway, I found out he cheated on me in the worst way imaginable so I was forced to leave. I fell out with his family too as they were being two faced & validating his behaviour. His mum let me know that it’s her that always wants to see my son, not his dad. And then because his dad knew I was serious about leaving for good, he has stopped providing for our son entirely. The falling out with his family, and my son not having a consistent father anymore were both my worst fears. I so badly wanted stability for my little boy, but I’ve come to realise I am the stability that he needs. Being with somebody you’re not happy with shows your child that there’s little to no other option & that this is normal.

Run , you can find a better step dad , don't stay if your unhappy 💯💯💯💯

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