Do I tell my parents when I go into labour

You need to put boundaries in place or else you'll be resentful

My advice is to just tell them once baby is here 🥰 Sometimes things are better said after the event because then theres no negotiating to be done and less stress for yourself. They maybe upset but they will soon get over it. The memories of giving birth will stick with you forever, so you want to make it the best, most calm time that you can xx

Do whatever works best for you and let them deal with it! If I were you, I’d definitely keep it to myself to minimise your stress and let you focus on having the birth you want. We surprised everyone with a baby (mainly because my waters broke over night and she was delivered by 3am) and no one was upset that we hadn’t informed them we’d gone into hospital. If they were upset, they didn’t make it known to us!

Labour and birth is a big deal if they cause you stress it's probably best to delay telling them or wait until after you've delivered. Last thing you need is added stress and aggro when you're in pain. Some hospitals still have tight restrictions regarding visitors my hospital for instance doesn't allow anyone but the birthing partner and siblings of the baby.

My mum - although no where near on this level - was wanting called straight away but I didn’t say anything for ages cause I didn’t want to upset her. Finally got the courage to say can she wait a couple days before visiting to allow me and my husband to come home with the baby. She completed understood. But you have in mind what you and your partner would like and that’s exactly what you should do. Have to think of it as - you either upset them or they upset you by making your birth different to how you imagine. You’ll never get this birth again so you must do what feels right. It’s not their birth, they can be upset but as long as you, baby and your partner are happy then honestly nothing else matters. It’s hard. If they’re likely to turn up uninvited and you don’t want that, then don’t tell them. Also in the moment you may change your mind but always do what you feel is right for you. It’s your birth not your parents x

You need to put up some boundaries. I would maybe compromise and ask your partner to let them know when you are in active labour but also mention that the hospital has a one person rule. Put your phones on flight mode and let them know when little one is here. Also realistically it’s a chaotic and emotional time and the main concern for you and your partner is to focus on delivery and baby - you shouldn’t have to think about keeping anyone else updated every 5 minutes.

Don’t. Wait until baby is born. I didn’t even tell my parents when my induction was last time. The only reason we told my in laws was because we needed them to have the dog

Don’t tell them until after if it’s going to cause you any stress. Focus on you and your baby. Dont feel guilty for it

My son was born in lockdown December 2020 and we went to the hospital at 2am, born at 6am. Nobody knew he’d been born till about 10am and it was lovely just being a family of 3 for a while before wider family knew. If you’re worried about them being overbearing, protect your peace and don’t tell them. Tbh it didn’t cross our minds to tell anyone at 2am as we were in focus mode!

My first arrived at 6.30pm and we didn't tell anyone until the next morning. It was so nice just having our little family time just the 3 of us. Definitely put yourself first, but also your baby- remember your baby only wants you and partner at the beginning, always a hard one to navigate!

Don't tell them. We are only telling his mum if we need someone to deal with our dogs. My mum would call, text and demand to come to the hospital and she isn't doing that. I'm considering not telling them until we are home and settled. She already isn't going to be happy as she smokes in her house so we won't be visiting and if she smells like cigarettes when she comes to my house she won't be holding the baby. Just don't tell them. Put your phone on do not disturb that way they can't contact you but you can still use your phone.