Friend always asking for money

My Bestfriend and I have known each other for 15 years. We loss contact back in like 2014 because of her ex partner. Back in 2020 she message me and apologized for everything and I forgave her. Since then she’s always asking me for money I don’t mind landing her money if it was a short amount but she’s always asking for huge amounts that even last year she asked me for almost 6k. The thing that bothers me the most is that she’s always traveling, posting all the stuffs she buys (high end brands), has a brand new car, and lives off the government. At the beginning of this year she asked for money and I just left her on seen, couple hours laters she texted me saying I shouldn’t leave her on seen and blah blah blah. I only have a part time and she knows it and my husband is the main provider. we are financially stable but we work hard to save money and be stable. Sometimes I feel like I want to start getting away from her because of the same reasons. I don’t want to be a selfish friend but I feel like she sees me as her atm.

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it’s tricky when you have to mix friend relationships and money relationships, although i’d personally be straight up with her (in the nicest way possible) and explain that you can’t giving/loaning her money. in the long term you don’t want it to affect your relationship with your partner. is she paying you back at all?

I'd tell her straight out it doesn't look like she's struggling and that you feel it's inappropriate for her to ask you for money. If she ends the friendship, so be it. Otherwise she will stop asking and maybe you can keep a healthy friendship. If you're already considering getting away from her because of it, this will at least give the chance for her to fix the awkwardness or not

Tell her you can’t keep giving her money, you have your own responsibilities . Sounds like she doesn’t have a kid , blame your baby if you need to . “Sorry I have to buy diapers… etc “ I had a ‘friend’ that had a job and complained about money every month but would always be smoking , drinking and eating out. Never complained when it came to buying those things only when it’s time to pay a bill .

This person doesn't sound like a proper friend 😕 I agree with the others, You should definitely say something and if she gets mad etc then screw her she definitely doesn't need to be bringing you down! You deserve better ❤️🫂 xx

She has 4 kids and I get is hard for her, but she’s always bragging about how she gets tattoos, getting a bike, traveling and telling me somebody else landed her the money like I really don’t care if she got the money from someone else. I have not landed her the money in like the last 4 times she has asked me because I cannot keep doing it, I have a family too.

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