I don’t know how to feel

Uhh…have you considered that he’s actually mourning a friend?

@Alana I would consider that, but he’s slept with so many people in that job and also he’s defended other women and basically told me he doesn’t care how I feel about anything he’s put me through, so it’s kind of hard to believe he’s mourning JUST a friend… but it’s ridiculous to be missing out on money because of a coworker!🥴 we can’t afford that right now.. I hate to sound insensitive but it is what it is! The last time the person I was with mourned a female friend, I found out he was sleeping with her! I wouldn’t be shocked if it isn’t the same situation! He lost a male coworker but he definitely didn’t miss out on overtime because of it!🥴 so what makes her so special!?

Some of us spend more time with our colleagues at work than our actual families, they become like an extended family. I’ve had colleagues die, including unexpectedly, and it’s hard to process. Especially so if you are seeing their things, deleting them from meetings, clearing their desks 😢 you know them, you know their kids names. I don’t think it’s wrong for him to say he’s having a bad day as a friend died, he’s grieving. I wouldn’t want to do overtime at that time, is he also expected to pick up her work? That’s hard to accept immediately, you feel like you are sweeping them away and replacing them.

It sounds like you’re probably being really rude about it tbh. You either accept his wrong doings in the past and forget about them or you leave. Simone has died , He’s grieving a friend and co worker and you’re more concerned about a little extra money and your own feelings.

@Helen yea I’m more concerned about extra money because we need it!! He can mourn while making money! And he knew he could too because he ended up staying over! So apparently he agrees with me as well! We’re in the process of trying to move and he’s the only source of income and he has to work overtime so we can get the money in time! Someone’s death cannot be the reason why we can’t move out on time! Life must go on! At the end of the day she was just a coworker

@Sarah I understand all of that, but we can’t afford to miss out on money, we have to be out of this house… yes it’s sad to lose a coworker, but she was just a coworker, they never even hung out outside of work… he doesn’t have to pick up her work at all they will just replace her with another employee, like they always do… like he said ITS LIFE! His words exactly… he ended up staying over getting the overtime because he agreed to what I said… yes her death is tragic and sad but life doesn’t stop because of it.. it’s not like he lost his mom or father or somebody who actually matters!! She was a coworker and there will be plenty more coworkers to come

Girl i understand money is hard, i understand history makes trusting hard, i also understand how us girls can be when another female seems to be a priority. Your responses are actually cracking up because you sound soo petti, so cold, and just so ignorant. somehow, I low key find it humorous. But to be honest, you need to stop for a moment and be checked back into reality. You're not understanding your partners emotions right now, you're being selfish af!! Money is important but everything you've said sums up to "so what if someone died at that job that you go to daily...who gives you the right to mourn and pout over it, suck it up and go make my money". You sound like an immature child, you dont understand that death doesnt go one way or to one person? It could be you too and you would want people around you to just move on like you're nothing? All because they "gotta move and need money." Keep that attitude, and you might be alone soon, and die alone, or no one would care when you are gone. Sorry 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Charlotte lol oh well charlotte, if that’s how it’s sounds to you oh well! But obviously me and him came to an understanding, trust me if he felt some type of way about what I had to say then he would’ve told me!! It seems as if y’all women on here the only ones with the problem, but then again I forgot I am talking to women!🤷🏽‍♀️🙄😂

And just because I’m sounding insensitive on here doesn’t mean that I was being insensitive towards my fiancé! So let’s get that out the way… I comforted him and everything but it still stands that missing out on money isn’t suitable for our situation right now! And he understands that!!! And he agreed

Okay, im glad you presented it better to him, than you did with us. Because otherwise, it would mean that he's either afraid, or for the sake of peace, he does as you say!

@Charlotte I wouldn’t dare be insensitive towards him like that, EVER.I basically just came on here to say how I really felt about the situation lol (my inside thoughts) I just needed an outlet

Okay. Cool. Thats why apps like this exists, it just seems like people post, but when others comment blunt responses, then offenses get taken. Like i said, i laughed at parts of your responses cuz i know how females can get...and thats what i got out of those. However, i wouldnt be truthful if i didnt speak from reality especially when it relates to relationships, and life/death of another. We all have those inside thoughts. Trust me, i cannot deny it!