Your child calling someone else “mommy”

This would break my mom heart..I don’t know what to say other than I’m sorry and you’re not wrong for feeling some type of way.

I feel mommy or any variation of it is reserved for the mom. Especially if she’s an active mom, My heart would be broken as well if I heard my son call anyone besides me Mommy.

I honestly can’t even imagine how I would feel. However, what I can say is that if he is calling her that maybe find some comfort in the fact that he feels comfortable and safe with her to be calling her that. He knows your his mama. My step daughter called me mom when she was younger.. I felt uneasy about it but I never wanted to make her feel bad about it so we just rolled with it and she kind of got over that. She called me by my name most of the time but occasionally will still call me mom.

@Alyssa she has kids and idk if he’s calling her that because he hears her kids call her that and no one is correcting him. it’s a weird situation because when his dad picks him up or when I mention to my son “you’re going with dada and (her name)” he throws an instant panic tantrum. He screams his lungs out and begs to not go, he was not always like this. not to mention her kids don’t even live with her so how do I feel right with you trynna be step mom to mine when you can’t keep yours.

@Lore yea idk how to feel about it and his dad is an ass idk how to even speak to him about it

Yeah I was going to mention that too. My step kids are much older but my step daughter calls me mom occasionally still but I think it’s mostly because my littles do. That’s definitely strange. I don’t blame you for feeling this way. When my step daughter started calling me mom (she was three) I would just be silly and say something like “ohhh I’m not your mommy silly.. mommy’s at her house” or something to keep it light but make it clear.

My 3 year old calls her dad’s girlfriend her second mom and I just chose peace instead of hurt. She knows who her mother is. Like it or not the woman is a mother figure in her life and as long as she cares for her and treats her as her own I don’t have any problems with it (I have never met this woman)

I would fight ngl

@Brianna same aint no way my sweet scorpio baby is calling another bitch "Mommy" get the fuck out of here with that shit thank god I kept the kid from my ex because he and his hoes omg ...

This is my worse fear I can’t lie, I separate from my BD and he’s seeing someone else now and I fear she’ll try and replace me so I’m very hesitant about when he introduces my daughter to her 🤮🤮🤮

You’re not wrong in how you feel. And that is an odd reaction. I used to react that way when I was young going with my dad bc his SD at the time was SA me as a baby/toddler. I’m not saying that’s what’s happening to your son obviously but I’d talk to him to see why he doesn’t want to go so much. It can be as simple as not being ready to lose you and still adjusting, but see why.

@Macdalia that’s my biggest fear since I’m not there idk what’s going on and his reaction is not normal. Plus his dad doesn’t text me back when he’s with him and I ask how he’s doing, he says I shouldn’t have yo text or call asking about it if he’s with him. old me would’ve through hands already but I’m trying my best to keep calm because I don’t want the court to go against me

@Brianna I really want to but I think about court and how they can use it against me

@hannah 🤍 I wish I could, my ex is trying so hard to prove a point as a “father” idk why if he really don’t give a fuck he does bare minimum. I wish he would just leave us alone. his fucking girl is pushing him to bring me to court when in all reality she doesn’t even have her own kids living with her

Tell the courts it’s weird behavior between baby and weird lady

Honestly it’s flat out inappropriate

@Brianna that’s my plan, wish me luck. I don’t want court to fail us.

Good luck!! Please tell them everything that’s going on and that it’s inappropriate behavior and they are acting strange dismissing concerns about baby safety etc..

That’s so strange I don’t blame you. My step son calls me mum around my kids but that’s to not confuse the kids and was his choice to do so, he asked me if he could call me that and I said it was all his choice and that I’d never be his mum and made sure he understood that. (he’s 6) but when it’s just me and him or my sons having a nap then he calls me my name.

I def hear keeping your calm. I’m tryna learn that too. Take him to a counselor. Even if nothing is going on, get him some help with the transition and find ways to help make it easier for him. You can’t stop it rn. Just make him more comfortable

what a nightmare

Hell no anyone else not my ex’s woman to be called mum by my kid

Tell your child’s father to teach your kid her name. And show him pictures and tell him her name.