Midwife judgment

Do you know what has really bugged me? A couple of weeks ago I thought my waters may have gone. I went to the loo and my knickers were damp. I called triage and they asked me to go in. Before even being checked a midwife came in and really rudely said to me “you’d know if you were in labour, you’ve had a baby before. It’s a hot day outside it could just be sweat down there” and I instantly felt stupid! It pissed me off so much because I can’t remember what it was like with my first and my mental health is so bad because my mum lost my brother because the same hospital kept sending her home when she was concerned so I told her. Anyway cut to today I’m 38w2d and I’ve had contractions this morning I swear every 20/30 mins for about 2 hours and then nothing. I kept thinking maybe I should ring up and ask but I don’t want to seem stupid or annoy them and I keep googling things and I’m just so annoyed that midwife made me feel that way!!

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This is EXACTLY what happened to me last night! I had dampness all yesterday and I phoned up and she told me I would know if it was my waters. I’ve never had a baby before and I’m only 18 so obviously I’m not gonna know if it’s my waters that’s why I phoned up!! She told me I should’ve just put a pad on and it made me feel so stupid! I’ve had cramps all day too and also don’t wanna phone up because I don’t want to feel like I’m bothering them 🙄 in the exact same situation as you honestly I wish you the best 🩷

This needs to be reported, please find out how to report on your local hospital webpage. Xxxx

Each pregnancy is different. My first wasn’t anywhere near the same as this one and I’ve experienced things I’ve never have with my first. No one should make you feel like you can’t ring them.

I had a sonographer and a doctor really upset me the other day, after speaking with my midwife she strongly advised I make a complaint. Whilst it seemed over dramatic to complain, she really reinforced that no medical professional should ever upset or undermine a patient, it’s their duty to care for us and never make us scared or feel stupid for asking questions that regard OUR SAFETY! I’ve really tried to make sure I’m in the mindset of I’d rather ask a million ‘silly’ questions, than not ask something that could be imperative to mine or my babies life. Sorry you had a bad experience, please do write up a complaint if you feel it’s really affected you! Advocate for yourself and don’t let the bully’s get to you xxx

Yep, I was having bad rib pain, called the maternity line and they sent me to triage. When I got there the midwife said “well no offence but, you don’t look in pain”. I felt so undermined and belittled 🙁

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