Help from baby's father?

Oh I’m sorry girl. I’ve gone through a very similar situation. We dealt with our breakup while I was pregnant with his kid, and he was veryyy distant and many times completely neglectful. I’ve taken the route to send the registry and any other upcoming and medical expenses to him. And other than that just given him space and silence. I’ve wanted him to feel the urgency in how much I need his help (also to hopefully put him in his masculine energy lol), so for me it’s been more important to be clear that I don’t miss him, but I do need him. And he has backed me financially (although communication has been hard) which is great and I’m grateful. But definitely the in-person route and sending all expenses his way has been my go to xx

You should send his mom the registry. She did nothing wrong unless I’m out of line saying that because it’s the opposite then I’m sorry. When I was pregnant with my first he was hardly there. I had to make him to go to Lamaze classes. He came with me and my mom. Regardless, how I felt about him I didn’t punch his family. I invited them to my baby shower, too. I made arrangements with his mom to see her for the holidays and weekends.

Now my husband of my 2 other kids is a narcissistic two face compulsive liar manipulative gaslighter shadyPOS Cheater hypocrite was useless and doesn’t help me financially has money but pays electricity cell bill water etc…. Later to the point they come to shut it off and he has to call them to pay.Me makes a mess in the kitchen and thinks doing dishes is too beneath him. Mine does communicate with me and he is abusive. He says he tells me things when doesn’t. Sorry I keep going on but I hope things get better. If you need to talk I’m here for you

In my opinion it’s not asking for help, is asking him to do his obligation as a father. I haven’t been in a situation like this… and it’s hard to tell how different people will react to different situations. But it’s his responsibility also. Maybe you can reach out to someone close to him/ family or friend that could make him come into some sense?

Personally, with my experience don’t even waste your time. It’s his duty to help as a father but at the end of the day they’re going to do what they want unfortunately. They don’t understand fatherhood is not an option. So I wouldn’t waste your time even trying to get his help because I feel like it just causes more disappointment in the end for you. Sorry you’re going through this! You are definitely not alone though 💖

I’m currently in the same situation but the difference is that my baby has a heart condition so after she was born me and my mommy was going back and forth to the hospital to visit her. And the hospital was a hour away. I wasn’t in the mindset to worry about the whole child support thing so I let my mom do it bc it takes two to make a baby and he needs to own up to his responsibilities. If he doesn’t do it at his own will then the law will make him. So I say send him the baby registry and if you don’t hear back from him in two weeks put that request in for child support as soon as u are able or have your parents do it for you

You got to do what you got to do I get what your child need

Put him on child support now

You shouldn’t be sending him the registry he should be asking for it, but he’s not gonna do that…

So I sent him the registry shorty after I made this post... to NO surprise, I didn't get a response. I don't think I ever will, unless it's law enforced. I really can't wrap my head around the fact he's obviously in total denial... His parents are just as bad. I was in communication with his father, but he's as blind to his son's actions as everyone around him, I told him I was pregnant months ago, and he said he was sorry... the fuck does that mean. Yeah I'm sorry to, it's with your dead beat son. To say the least I did some digging and his father molested two of his grandchildren. I was fucking mortified. Debating on reaching out to the sister in law and his bother, as I know they have no contact with my "BD" for so said other reasons 😖 everything I ever knew about him was a lie.

I'd LOVE to put him on child support now, but in the date of Florida I don't think you can until baby takes it's first breath, and then I'll obviously need to file to get a paternity test for proof because we were never married

His mom will tell him if you invite her but has he mentioned to you about offering you money when the baby comes? No right? Check your state and see how soon you can file. You're doing what I did delaying and feeling bad but enough is enough because who is the person getting fuck here you and that baby

I've really had no contact with his mom, besides via phone here and there through him, she was in a different country the majority of the time we were together. We weren't together long before the narcissistic abuse started happening... probably just about a year & then I found out I was pregnant.... go figure

Should I still reach out to her? It will probably get me no where, I'm just more concerned for court purposes. I don't want anything back firing on me... because my fucking luck it will girl 🥴🤦🏻‍♀️

As long as you tell the court the truth they will have no problem put him on child support

Are you going to stay in the same state or move? Are you in UK or FL?

Find an attorney asap and see what you can do legally so you’re prepared before the baby comes

I'm in Florida. I plan on staying here.