MY BIGGEST HATER…. is my mom. Or am I tripping???
My mom makes snarky comments like “you don’t feed your baby” or “just take care of the baby” in a very sarcastic tone. I got groceries and she yelled “you barely take care of her, you didn’t even get any milk”. Whole time I had 3 cans of formula and I breastfeed anyway.
I have a dramatic baby and when she cries my mom gives me shady looks and says things like “let me find out” or “what are you doing to my baby”, or “your mom doesn’t wanna give you milk” in a very nasty way and tries to take the baby cause I must’ve did something to her. Whole time she’s crying cause her favorite show went off. Which I know cause she’s MY child.
She talked about moving countries and taking the baby with her. My baby use to cry and scream when my mom held her until I took her but now she’s the baby whisperer.
When she’s alone with my bd she talks shit calling me a “pretty little liar” and “a dumb little girl”. she barely knows my bd but can’t wait to badmouth me to him.
She went off about my baby’s name saying it’s ghetto, offensive to her, and a stain on her legacy. (It’s Milian, Milly for short). Yelling at the top of her lungs cause I didn’t name her something on the list she gave me. She’s even upset my baby has her dads last name cause she doesn’t like it. Says she’s gonna call the baby whatever she wants.
If I tell her specifically not to buy something for baby, she buys it anyway. If I tell her ANYTHING about caring for baby she doesn’t listen. She talks about sneaking her food when I say not yet. If I lock the door she yells and tries to break it down waking me and baby up. Even if it’s locked while I’m pumping or changing clothes she starts going off. I “shouldn’t be locking doors because I don’t pay any bills”. I give her 600$/mo, pay the wifi, and buy household things. The mortgage is only 900.
She said I should be in jail not my brother. That I’m a follower. When I say my brother is a grown ass man she screams that I’m a dumb bitch and a stupid little girl. She’s obsessed with him and makes all these excuses for him while treating me like trash.
I hate her. Everything she does angers and disgusts me. Especially when she says I don’t take care of or feed my baby which she’s always said.
My baby has everything under the sun. The doctors are amazed with my baby’s growth every time. I feed her, burp her, change her, bathe her, cloth her, do her hair, wash her bottles/pumps/pacifiers, play with her, read to her, put her to sleep on rotation every day while working 50-60 hr weeks. I just took her to the zoo and out to eat and to 3 doctor appts in a week. I’m fucking Supermom honestly. But all I get from my mom is her acting like I abuse and neglect my child. Lowkey hurtful.
Trying to move out asap. Even thinking of paying for childcare so my mom doesn’t have to watch her while I work. When I don’t need her for childcare anymore I’m cutting her off and she won’t see us again. This is just a fraction of things she says/does. Am I wrong for feeling like this?
mine is my nan. she made me feel bad because I couldn't breastfeed anymore and moved onto formula. she kept trying to take my daughter off me to "give me a break" when i didnt want one. when I asked her to do something for me, she'd try holding my daughter and telling me to do it instead of just helping me with the tasks. you are a supermom. you are doing amazing and there's always at least one family member who acts like they need to "teach" you because they raised you.