Need advice 😭

First of all I just want to say I am so sorry and sending you hugs. This journey is so unfair. I am on failed transfer #2 and preparing for #3. I understand your sadness. Nothing anyone says really makes this all feel any better. Have you tried different protocols with your clinic? Have you found any answers with testing? This may be an unpopular opinion but I would probably transfer the 5th embryo if it was me. I just started acupuncture for my third round. I have no idea if it will help, but my insurance covers it so I decided why not give it a try. If you need something to reduce stress/anxiety acupuncture may be something to look into. As far as donor egg, that is a decision for you and your spouse only not for your MIL. Your miracle baby is coming🤍 Don’t lose hope.

@Anna thankyou it means alot ..even I want to transfer the embryo but since doctor is saying no so I am very much confused ..but I want to try but for that I need to be mentally prepared..sending love to you and best wishes for ur 3rd transfer 💘

I am really sorry for everything you are going through. I never really had an embrio from the 3 times that I tried IVF with my own eggs. So I don't know the pain from a negative but I know the pain from feeling that I am not good enough to have an embrio and questioning my worthy a million of times. I used to cry all the time. I have made peace with all this feelings and moved to donor egg. My advice to you is do what is best for you and on your own time. Try more times if you need, find mental health support (psychologist), and do not listen to your MIL. This is your journey and you are the one in charge. Take your time to recover and find your path. Donor egg is a beautiful path but you need to be prepared and made peace with your body. I am currently 6 weeks pregnant praying that everything goes well 🙏🏻🙏🏻 If you need to talk feel free to send me a message.

@Joice thanks..so brave of you to take a decision..but I am scared that if I use donor egg and I won't be able to take care of the child which is not genetically mine that thought is enough for me to not get ready for using donor eggs ..all the best for ur new journey ahead 💟

Firstly I’m really sorry you’re going through this, I’ve been there myself and it’s horrible It was 5th time lucky for me (so far currently 10 weeks) But I did do further tests and found I had a raised double stranded dna which could indicate lupus Long story short I don’t have lupus but I pushed for prednisalone for my5th transfer as my bloods indicated something was ‘inflamed’ in my body So I would recommend speaking to the dr about next steps and further testing if you can do that Best of luck to you x

@Kate thank you dear..will think what to do in future ..best of luck to you too🤩

@Kate was it Prednisone that you were on? I am taking that for my third transfer as I believe there is some inflammation going on.

@Anna yes for this transfer I done a ‘natural FET’ with prednisone and cyclogest I really pushed for it with my consultant and he was happpy for me to try it, I honestly think that’s been the reason for our positive outcome Best of luck to you x

I’m so sorry for what’s going on with you! First I want to send you lots of positive vibes your way! Second I think you are doing great and taking a mental pause from all this is a great idea! We had our first FET failing and we were devastated I didn’t want to transfer another embryo till I had some answer on why it didn’t work since the doc gave us 70% chance on working…she was surprised as well! We took a break and ended going to Disney! ALSO the whole time we were doing ivf we had an infertility therapist that we saw weekly and that helped us a lot!!! We found out after more tests that I had endo, so we changed our protocol and I did acupuncture on my second transfer and it worked!!! We have a beautiful baby now!!! All this to say don’t lose hope yet! Stick to your beliefs and don’t let anyone (even the doctors) tell you no. if you don’t feel comfortable with it yet it’s ok. You are your best advocate! You got this! Good luck! 💛

@Fed thanks dear for telling me inspiring journey of ur life ..just pray that I get my miracle baby soon 💕

@Kate congrats on your pregnancy! What else did you take besides those if any? I am also doing a natural this time around🤞

@Anna I took aspirin 75mg and a pre pregnancy vitamin (like an all in one) that was it! Fingers crossed for you xx

@Kate Ok, thank you! I’m also taking aspirin

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have had 4 failed FET, and I understand completely how you're feeling. AF arrived today and trying for my 5th FET. I'm mentally drained from it, to the point I dont even want to do anymore as I know deep down it won't work. It honestly kills a part of me each time, I have changed as a person too. I'm hesr to chat if you want to rant x

@Sadie so sorry to hear that ..I don't have any words to console you dear..even I told my husband that we should give up but he is like will you be okay if we give up bcoz he knows in 1-2 months I will regret the decision of giving up..I used to think only I am one who changed while going through infertility 💔if you need me then I am just a mesage away dear ❤️

@Shell Thank you. I'm having my 5th transfer next week. We have said when the remaining 3 have gone, thats our journey done. Will you have another?