Billy no mates
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This breaks my heart! It’s really hard but you need to put yourself out there. Connect with people on this app and then go to events. I started an event called mamas who brunch. Not sure where you are based but have a look at it as I was in the same boat and always wanted to create an inclusive community so everyone has support
I find its a lot easier to meet people at a small class like mum and baby yoga for example where they do introductions and go round and say how old baby is- that drums up a lot more conversation and you can be the one to say ‘Im knackered today if anyone wants to join me for coffee’ and someone may join! We made a little group of four doing that. The mums and tots are impossible to get talking I find, youre usually chasing your baby or warding off big naughty toddlers!
@Katie thanks for the suggestion. I’ve just looked up mamas who brunch and they have one in my area but they seem to all be on a Friday when I work. Don’t know if I’d have the guts to go even if it was on a day I’m free! Have just completely lost my confidence.
@CeeCee the one I go to on Mondays is just a little sing song thing at the library. Did baby sensory when baby was younger, that was a group of 10 but that one most people just sat on their phones. Also did baby massage when he was younger but everyone there already knew each other from living in the area a long time. I did also try some stay and play and yeah you’re right they’re no good at all, too many people, all already in groups and you have to watch your baby like a hawk.
Do you ever go to the soft play centres that have a baby section? I've ended up chatting to quite a lot of other mums in these settings as the kids all tend to try and interact with each other so it naturally drums up conversation of how old each other's babies are etc. And the baby sections tend to be quite small and less intimidating. A lot of the soft plays also serve food and drink so then you could always ask if they wanted to sit together and grab a coffee/feed the babies x
@Harriet thanks for the suggestion, this is something I’ll definitely go to at some point but my baby isn’t crawling yet so not much point at the moment.
Ah yeh I know what you mean, I did take my little one a couple of times before he was crawling and just let him have tummy time with some different toys or stuck him in the jumperoo 😂 but you're right, they probably don't get much out of it until they can move around a bit. I hope you find some mum friends as I know having a baby can be pretty isolating x
Hey, this is my second baby and this time round I've not made any new friends. I've been quite fortunate that I had some friends who happened to be having second babies at the same time, otherwise I wouldn't have anyone. Starting to feel it now that they're going back to work too. I find those baby groups can be really hit and miss for meeting people.