partner cursing

Youre not triggered!! He shouldn’t be cursing at you!! It’s a normal response! It’s a clear sign of a lack of respect! You deserve better

@Wendi thank you.. i know i do, he did end up apologizing but he’s definitely breaking me down..

If he’s really sorry he will stop doing it. Not just say sorry and still do it

Why does he curse at you? So rude

@Gemini we both kinda had attitudes yesterday and he was raising his voice at me calling me a cry baby… he said i cry/complain too much.. i just had a baby🙃 he was saying it again today because i started crying again after he said something rude.. my emotions are everywhere and he just adds fuel to the fire

Aw that’s still not very nice of him love. He needs to be stronger, his body isn’t full of hormones

@Gemini i agree! i’ve left a couple of months ago because of how i was being treated but ultimately couldn’t afford to live on my own and had no where else to go… i’m hoping he changes for my sons sake

If you’re able to put your son on Medicaid you can get child care for free and you will be able to work. If not take this time to study on getting a certificate for a job like dental assistant or something that allows you to make more money So you’re able to be independent whenever you need to be 😊

@Gemini i love this! thank you.. he’s on medicaid but i didn’t know i could get free child care! and im definitely going back to school asap to finish up my next degree! or possibly go through a program to start working immediately afterwards!

Good luck 💕💕💕💕💕

You get triggered because it’s traumatizing you and honestly it’s abuse my therapist says ….. my Ex would cuss me out yell at me call me names and it would make me cry because how do you disrespect someone you say you love and then you said you just had his baby and he is treating you like that Nooooooo he is so wrong …… my husband has NEVER yelled at me or called me out my name never soooo trust there are men who will treat you way better

@Amber girl i needed this confirmation🥲 i honestly want to get into therapy asap! and you’re right! i cry because i would never speak to him the way he does me.. i love him too much, even when he’s disrespecting me.. so im like.. how can he love me the way he claims to.? he told me i cry more than our baby😂😂 like whattt

It’s wrong when your partner yells or even cuss at you. My ex tried to make it seem like it was normal and make light of it. After a while it began to tear me down so much that it didn’t take much to make me cry. If you are passed the talking it out stage then take steps to move forward without him. I started going to therapy and she mentioned flight, fight and fawning. I was always in flight or fight mode and it ended up always being my fault then I realized I was fawning…. Basically going with the flow to avoid conflict. For your physical health and mental it’s never a good state to be in. Cursing at you especially after just having a baby and calling you a cry baby is not okay, it’s disrespectful and he’s lacking understanding

@Imani oh my gosh 🥲 i’m definitely fawning a lot of the time!! i’ve never heard of that terminology! when i was pregnant, i avoided everything and anything that might cause him to be mean to me 😕 and he kind of made it seem like i was victimizing myself in a way? every argument/fight that we have, i end up just moving on from it because he acts like nothing happened… and i guess that’s where fawning comes in

@Gemini maybe it depends on the state because my child is on medicaid and we do not get free child care. We live in Washington state. We do though get a reduced price but that's not because of medicaid, that's just based off of our household income

Yes! That’s exactly what I was doing. When my therapist brought it up and showed me an article and a podcast on it I was just like oh my gosh why haven’t I heard of this before!! All the different examples resonated with me.

@Imani do you mind sharing what podcast??🫶🏻

Yeah! This is what she sent me https://open.spotify.com/episode/25pUrRMDCoZPp7ouFhUSFd?si=0a6557d21de74686 (16 minutes) https://open.spotify.com/episode/36X7LAa773lbGDETkZBaj6?si=6f5ec9889ca64085 (1 hour 37 minutes) https://open.spotify.com/episode/1LhDJ1pYTZzq9mgmStAISn?si=96460224f89c4db3  (42 minutes)

@Imani thank you sm💓