Leaving baby

I would just say that you would rather your parents met her first before she looked after her.

I completely understand you. No way would I personally let anyone look after my baby at that age. For me it's way too soon but that's just me. I understand they may be trying to be helpful so maybe thank them and just let them know you're not ready for that yet? Might be worth just explaining this to your partner too? Just so he can understand why you feel that way?

@Romina thank you, I am greatful for the offer but just give me a few more weeks, my partner said I’m being dramatic it’s only a few hours but guys just don’t always get it x

Personally - 100% no

No I wouldn't let them personally, I would say "thank you so much, I'd love it for you to look after my toddler, but I'm really not in the mental space to be apart from my newborn just yet, hope you can understand"

I'm sorry to hear that his response shit. Don't let it get to you, you're not being dramatic I promise! My little one is 5 months and I still won't let anyone look after her alone and luckily my partner understands x

I'm not even ready for my 15 month old to be away from me overnight. It's totally okay to hold your boundary and say no. I honestly think she's crazy for even asking at 2 weeks!

If it makes you feel better my daughter is almost 2.5 and I still haven't spent a night away from her! You've got to do what feels right to you

Absolutely not being funny. Just say she can take toddler but you’re not ready to part with the baby yet. It’s not about her feelings, it’s about yours as a new mum again and your body literally needs to be around your baby to feel calm. No one in their right mind can get mad at you for feeling that way x

@Marisa thank you! And right with my little boy he was about 3 months when I had 3 hours away from him and I felt guilty as anything!

@Laura thank you! He just made me feel rubbish for saying no! I’m breast feeding as well so really don’t know what he expects

Nah, not being funny. If you don’t feel comfortable with it, just tell them you changed your mind 🤷🏽‍♀️ it’s perfectly okay to change your mind about something. If she still wants to watch the toddler, great! Don’t over complicate it 🙏🏽

Tell her that you understand that she is excited to spend time with the baby but right now you are still adjusting and bonding with him and that because your baby is so new you are not ready for overnights or extended time away just yet. Set up some days and times that are within your comfort zone for her to visit or you to visit her so that she feels involved.

I wouldn’t, it’s too soon. Just say you don’t feel comfortable until bubba has their jabs.

That is too young for me to be away from you

You do what is best for you. Your baby is still tiny, you are still bonding and noone should judge you based on your comfort with a newborn. My son is 3 and still hasn't spent a night away from us. You do you and don't worry about anyone else.

Thanks all, I have sat my partner down and explained to him this is too early for me, I’m bonding and establishing a breast feeding routine at the moment the answer is no otherwise the whole time I’ll be really upset and he said he will tell her I’m not ready to be away from her yet, so thank you all! I didn’t want to be pushed over and I stood my ground x