Toddler never wants to do anything but play with toys

I can't get my toddler to do anything other than sit and play with toys. We'll start the day with a good breakfast and being silly and then I'll start offering things for us to do that day. I'll suggest painting or some other arts and crafts, reading books, puzzles, going to different stores. He always tells me no he just wants to play, and he is very whinny if I'm not playing with him. He's 3, i'm a sahm and he's only in school 2 days a week so we do a lot of playing. Is it normal that he doesn't want to do anything else or go anywhere? He loves going to school and I wish we could afford it more days but we can't. If I suggest the park he will be excited for that, but where I live the weather is a big issue so we can't go all the time. What are your toddlers like to do?
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Try using his independent playtime as a reward for him completing other activities you want him to do. Start with small things first like "do a puzzle, then play. Work on letters, then play." I also sometimes decide on an activity for us to do. I will set up painting supplies, and we will paint for a bit just to get them used to attending to a requested task like they will have to in school. I say they because I have twins.

You're the parent. Instead of asking if he wants to do things which he will always say no to rephrase it. "In 15 minutes we are going to the park" and if he whines and cries that's totally normal and fine. Just tell him it's okay to be upset but you're still going and if he needs a hug to let you know. Read the book Hunt Gather Parent it will absolutely change your life. Same thing with independent play if he cries you're not playing say sorry mommy is doing xyz over here and if he cries that's okay! I will usually say I'm doing the dishes you can help if you want to. And half the time they will and half the time they'll just play independently.

I agree with above about telling him what you're going to do instead of asking. If you want to go on a walk/to the museum/library, whatever, just plan a time to go and tell him a bit before you leave and then when you're ready, that it's time to go to the wherever. My 3 year old is very fearful of humans and a wide variety of situations and if I'd ask her what she wants to do or whether she wants to go she would say no most of the time, but after we actually go she doesn't want to leave and later talks about having a great time. So I don't ask. At this age they are so bad at predicting how they will feel about anything, they truly don't know what will make them happy in the future

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