Coparenting (step chid)
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Being a step parent is hard especially when you hear “ your not really his/hers mom” I’ve been in my sd life since he was - little over 1yrs old and she’s 9 now. Honestly if your husband/partner doesn’t support you on how you feel and doesn’t talk to BM about it. It’s not gonna change.
Step parent, married to dad for 2 years. Get a parenting plan in court, then momma can’t change her mind anymore. Document exactly when they come and show the court the plan for the most frequent visits, show she’s flaky, get a real lawyer if you can.
I agree with @Ariel . Use to deal with the same thing until we got papers thru court stating limits , child support payments, parenting plan, etc or she’ll be held into contempt. After we did this oddly me and bio mom are actually trying to become friends. i don’t think this would’ve been possible if we didn’t put more permanent solutions into place.
@Anitra haha I could have wrote this! Bio momma HATED me when I was dating my husband because “I’d never stay” 😒 🤦♀️ now that we’ve been married 2 years she has probably realized I’m staying by now, and tries to play nice.
My husbands ex is also so much to deal with. She’s so bitter from their relationship that she can’t coparent peacefully. She’s also incredibly jealous of me and my relationship with her kids. She gives me anxiety too, and I hate it. The first thing you partner needs to do is go to court to get a custody agreement, that way she can’t change the schedule as she pleases. Second, try to disengage with her. Let your partner do all the communication with her. There’s no need for you to be talking with her if it’s causing you to be stressed. Thirdly, and this is the hard one, I’m personally tired of feeling all the negativity and animosity so I have tried to now take everything g she says and does and look at it through the lenses of kindness. She might be a b but I’m going to kill her with kindness so I can stay the person I know I am. Good luck momma, this is hard position to fbe in but our step kids deserve a happy and productive step mom too!
@Christal ugh I feel this. I’m just trying to live my life, it’s hard when bio mom is jealous over something she could have if she just tried with her kids, or choose more stable men to have in her life. Sorry you have to deal with this!
As a bio mom I’m so sorry ur in that situation. But I’d say you deal with it the same way you would if it was a dad who kept canceling. Take her back to court. Document everything. Keep everything in text. Try to limit phone calls ect. Get a parenting plan set up and hold her accountable.
Following because i'm going through the same thing.