Feel like a bad mum

My Baby Girl is just so much hard work at the minute and I feel like I’m just not enjoying any time she’s with me and it makes me feel so bad at the end of the day. But i’m really at my wits end. She wakes up and cries and carries on crying til she falls back asleep in the night, every single thing in the day is a fight. She screams when I try to get her to eat, she screams with purees, she screams when I try to give her milk. She screams when I try to put her to sleep. She screams when I put her down to play, she screams if I hold her, she screams if I put her down, screams when I get her dressed. I can’t even put her in a bouncer next to me to get dressed, do dishes… and on top of the screaming she’s kicking me, pinching, scratching, pulling my hair, wiggling. It gets to the point where I’m shouting at her and getting angry cos she’s hurting me, been screaming at me all day, and I’ve not been able to rest or eat or brush my teeth all day. And then I feel awful when she’s asleep for shouting and getting angry and feeling this way. I just don’t know what’s wrong with her is it a phase? Is anyone else going through a nightmare child?

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Do you have community centres that offer check-ups for babies/ other services to help or help you find ways to work through the day. My little man can get quite the same at times, he gets bored of the same thing quite quickly so it's a lot of doing different things, he will only be in his play pen or walker for no more than 5 mins 10 if we are lucky, we are basically only contact sleeping and getting dressed or nappy changes can be a trying time. It can be hard to keep reminding yourself that they don't understand/have no idea what you're saying to them or how to communicate to you how they feel other than yelling. We like to go outside, a nice bath seems to calm my little one. Do you have a good village/support group you can reach out to to help you on days that are hard? There's lots of things that could be happening though, sleep regression, teething, starting to get sick, it could just be that she's realising a lot around her and is scared to not be in your arms. It's tiring but you're doing great.

@Kate were meant to see the health visitor every 2 weeks but they’re awful havent seen them in weeks 🙄 I have a support system but then shes still screaming so it just makes it worse cos shes screaming with other people x

There might be something physically wrong. I think you should get her checked. I am so sorry mama you are going through this. This must be very exhausting and frustrating.

@Taraneh Im going the health visitor tomorrow so going to mention it but then I might take her the gp just to rule it out

Im so sorry, this is really hard! Could she be colic? I hope you get the support you need. This is really hard on you , sometimes it's ok to step away if you need to go have a big cry.

@Avigael I didn’t even know colic was still possible this old 🙈 I might try the colic drops again thankyou x

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