Friendship breakdown

I’ve cried about this all day and I’ve decided to come to a group who might understand me im the first of my friend group to have kids, im currently 13 weeks! most of my girlfriends have been loving the experience of learning how pregnancy and motherhood goes… except I found out a childhood friend of mine had her bachelorette this weekend and I wasn’t invited When I hit her up about it she replied with “ nothing personal, it was a wine tasting and you are pregnant, there was no point inviting you “ We ended the chat and I kinda just sobbed, I had heard this happens, you become pregnant and have babies and because you move onto the next stage in life a lot of friends tend of drop you.. I just didn’t expect it to happen when the baby is still brewing!

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It’s really annoying isn’t, but maybe she generally thought you wouldn’t enjoy yourself or be comfortable around the alcohol or assume you would have said no, I would just let her know that you’re still up for doing things and it’s nicer to just ask not assume. I’m sure this wasn’t a on purpose thing of excluding you and kicking you out the group x

@Chloe worse part is I’m the kind of friend who would have happily sat there sipping on juice cause I know it isn’t about it.. it’s about her and I wanted to be there to support her cause this is an exciting time It just really hurt that she so easily didn’t include me

For a bachelorette I understand but recently my friend told me she’s going for wine tasting the weekend of her birthday and I didn’t feel any type of way that she didn’t invite me I didn’t think much of it since I can’t drink

I don’t think they understand how isolating it can be to not be included , if you were close she could’ve told you her plans and even if it’s not suitable for you to go then you might’ve suggested something separate for the both of you to do 🤷🏼‍♀️ fair enough she didn’t have to be accommodating but to not mention it at all she probably couldn’t be bothered with the reaction she might’ve gotten. It stings a little but it’s just something that happens , i know before i got pregnant it’s hard to empathise with someone when you haven’t been through it before and i ended up apologising to people who have been there for me because i never offered up any company or advice when they were pregnant first it’s just hard to put yourself in someone’s shoes when you don’t know what any of it is like 🙈 hope you do have a couple of friends who will stick around though x

It happened to me, I now only see 1 but she had kids herself so she's been through the stage of losing friends. I found the ones that dropped me were also the first to congratulate me once he was here and telling me once I'd settles let them know and they'd pay me a visit.

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