Stupid question for second pregnancy moms?

Ok so long story short I have this weird thing about having a bad feeling about something and then it happens….like it’s a thing I wish it wasn’t but ya. Like telling my husband I didn’t wanna go to this monster truck thing with the kids this one time and he had a fight with me but we didn’t go, next day we found out someone got ran over and died. Had a bad feeling that something was wrong with his son ( we have very little custody of his 2 kids from a past relationship thanks to Florida thinking there mom is good ) next day he gets a call that his son wasn’t ok and had called the police because he couldn’t sleep and didn’t want to wake his mom. It’s been an on going thing for me to have these bas feelings and be right. Even just before we found out we were having a boy I was talking to someone and said I can’t wait until I can start buying clothes for him, which I thought was weird because two weeks later we get the test results and we are having a boy…..I’m due November 27th, my baby shower is supposed to be on October 27 and we will be moving before the baby is born…….I would not wish this stress on anyone lol. So long story short is I keep having this weird bad feeling that he’s going to come early and be born in October. I know I sound crazy but like I’m literally having nightmares and just this freaky feeling being like be ready in October, he’s going to be early. Have everything ready now. I just didn’t know if anyone else has dealt with this? This is my first pregnancy and we have had a bad year with a lot of stress. I have a few things bought like random clothes for him but nothing for myself and no hospital bag, no crib, no diapers, nothing…..it’s so stressful because I want to get things set up but we are literally moving at the end of October so I can’t do any nesting until we move and I feel like I’m loosing it….help please…

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Don’t feel weird about having “visions” or feelings about things happening before they happen. I have them alllllll the time. I would just try and be prepared as much as possible before he gets here. Everything will fall into place as it comes. If he’s early, he’s just ready to come. Things happen for a reason and nothing is a coincidence. Trust your gut and your feelings. I’m a spiritual/witchy person, so these things are “normal” for me. If you have any questions, shoot me a message!

I would go ahead and pack your hospital bags and make sure to have diapers/wipes and a bassinet for the baby to sleep in. The basics will be plenty until you move and can get the baby’s room set up. If it will ease your mind, then I would just make sure to have those simple things done. It doesn’t hurt to have them ready even if the baby doesn’t come early.

I haven't had that precognition you are describing, but I am supposed to close on a house Oct 30th and baby due date is Nov 5th.... So I am feeling that stress!!!! We sold our house in TX in the spring and moved in with my parents in NJ in May. It's so hard and I feel like I have to get this place ready in case we don't move out before baby but also figure out what we need for the new house we don't live in yet (like baby gates etc). Plus we have an 11 month old and a cat. I would try to have things ready in your current space in case that happens. It doesn't have to be your dream nursery, but at least a pack n play (which you can get with a diaper changing station and bassinet) and a nursing cart for either breastfeeding or bottle supplies and/or a diaper cart to have all your diapers, wipes etc for diaper changing

Oh and pack your hospital bag for sure

It will work out for us both even though it feels awful right now!

@Amanda the problem is I don’t want to be here after we have the baby because there is black mold in the attic and it’s stressing me out, on top of that my husband is busy with getting his parents new home done because the place we are moving to is the home they used to rent…..so we can’t move until they move out. Not to mention his brother won’t help at all and he won’t pack and all he does is smoke weed and do nothing when he’s home from work so even if his parents got all the stuff out of the house we can’t move in until we get the bedrooms professionally cleaned because how much his brother smoked in his room all the time. So I’m stuck here with no one to help me clean or pack or do anything. It’s like wanting to nest but can’t….

Sorry that's tough. Try looking up "radical acceptance" since it sounds like this situation is out of your control (I'm working on it with my situation). But if you can get the super basics in your current space it would help. Reach out to anyone local you can and hopefully your family will come around to helping. You're stronger than you think, you will get through this!

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