Can’t stand my husband

I’m sorry :((

I could have written this myself. You are definitely not alone girl. I hope things get better for us both.

I feel like this a bit myself. He goes to work (and works hard and long hours) then wants a break a couple times a week to game. That irritates me because I feel like he needs to spend time with us (during these early months especially, she’s 2 months). And also having an automatic strong connection with our daughter, I am more intuitive with her and he just gets so frustrated and doesn’t listen when I tell him what she wants. Then will vent to his mom and she’ll suggest solutions 🙄. He’s a great man and my best friend. But there’s a huge adjustment period after having a baby. We aren’t the same people now. But we both keep communicating and respecting each other even if we aren’t agreeing or understanding each other at the moment. I love him and I know he loves us. No matter how hard you prep for the baby, it’s always going to be a shock and a rift is pretty natural I think. As long as you are able to express your concerns.

Also never stop advocating for yourself. Your feelings are valid and if you’re feeling ignored and lonely, that is something he should help with. You created and brought his child in the world. That alone deserves respect, but also you aren’t just a mom. You need companionship. I’m currently in the same boat trying to get my husband to understand this.

I don’t know how to tell him how I’m feeling. He probably doesn’t understand the extent of my frustration and resentment, just that I’ve been extra cranky.

I’m going through the same thing only I told my man I didn’t want to be with him and that e should take a break because I got some damn tired of worrying about our relationship when I’m the one who just had a baby and is going through PPD. Now I feel like it’s made us drift even more 😞 hang in there… it will get better ❤️‍🩹