Lonely

Not much point to this post I guess I just want to see if anyone else is feeling the same way. I had my baby by c section 5 weeks ago so I can’t drive yet so already really struggled being stuck in the house a lot as there isn’t really much within walking distance from my house and I get too much anxiety for public transport. I don’t have many friends anyway but the ones I do have or thought I had, have barely even messaged to check in and haven’t come to visit me or my baby which is such a shitty feeling, it’s like I’m just not important enough in their lives but now especially I could’ve done with friends more than ever as I’ve struggled a bit with my depression and anxiety. My partner says I should reach out to them but I’m being stubborn because why should i? They know full well that I’ve just had a baby and I’m essentially on my own and they haven’t bothered to even ask how I am, I don’t want to force someone to be in my life. On top of that my partner works really long days so I really am on my own all day everyday and our relationship has been very rocky recently so that hasn’t helped the situation at all. My mum is the only one of my family who really makes any kind of effort but she can go a week between visits so I can literally go a week without seeing anyone or having any adult interaction apart from when my partner gets home from work and it’s so so lonely. I know it will be easier when I can drive again and I do want to go to baby/toddler groups but I worry that my anxiety will stop me 😫

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Hi. I am sorry you feel this way. It can get lonely when you're only with your baby. If you want you can text me anytime you feel like you want to talk to someone. I am with my baby 24/7, my husband is mostly at work and I have no family here, so I am always free to chat 😊

I've been driving since 3 weeks post c section. My Dr said she waited that long so I thought...fine! Great I'll just do it. It's saved me because sometimes I'll just pop my baby in his car seat and just drive around...grab a coffee from McDonald's and see something other than the house four walls. Huge hugs xx

@Rebecca I think it’s a bit of an iffy one because some insurance companies say you’re essentially not insured until after the 6 weeks or cleared by a doctor. I’ve had a few walks to get coffee which does help a bit but I just wish I could go further. I can drive again next week thankfully. Just wish people cared enough to make an effort

@Tereza thank you 💕

That sucks you're feeling lonely. I would reach out to your friends though, they probably think "you're busy" and don't know how to help or when is appropriate to catch up. Just let them know you're open for hanging out and I'm sure they will be there, and if they aren't, at least you tried. Can your mum or partner join you for the first baby class then you can go to subsequent ones solo? You've got this!

@Djena I get that they’d think I’m busy which I obviously am with 2 kids but even still a simple message checking in would be nice but I don’t even get that 😫 yeah I think my partner coming with me could be an option if I can find any that will fall on his days off so he’s free to come

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