Dad with PND

My partner did a bit after our first. It was a mix of stress from work and the pressure to provide for us all with me not working, the fact that he wouldn’t get to spend much time with our baby between work, I’d be nagging at him for help because I was also struggling not realising at the time that he was. I recall him saying something along the lines of he felt like he was failing us He was really closed off and became very distant and just wasn’t himself, he didn’t want to get up in the mornings etc and didn’t really speak about how he was feeling and it was only because I called him out on it that he told me how he felt and went to the doctors otherwise he would have just buried his head in the sand even more

Thanks so much for sharing. I’m sorry your family went through that. I think my partner feels like he’s failing us cus I do everything for baby and even on mat leave I earn significantly more money than him. I thought I’d have PND but it seems like it’s hit my partner hard. I’ve spoken to him about it and he says he’s stressed and depressed but it’s so hard when he’s snapping at me 😔😔

I completely get that it’s so hard especially when it feels like they’re taking it out on you 😫 my only advice would be to try and encourage him to speak to a doctor about how he’s feeling and also just reassure him that you appreciate everything he’s doing for your family etc, ask him if there’s anything you can do that would help. We also tired to have a couple “date nights” in the house just to try take our minds off things and have a bit of normality