Caught hubby watching gay porn...
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Been through this, if you’d like to message me you absolutely can and we can talk more. If not just know the thoughts you’re having are 100000% normal.
But straight woman watch gay porn I know I do and I’m happily married my husband I’m not bi anyway, but like lesbian porn is hot. Just have a conversation about it.
I definitely think you should talk to him about it before making any assumptions to see where his head at with it. Porn addiction is a VERY serious issue that’s affects more relationships than you know. And the thing about porn addiction, like any other addiction, your threshold increases the more you consume your vice. So your husband may have started out watching regular porn but after consuming so much, he might’ve gotten bored by it and had to move on to more depraved types of porn in order to feel that rush again.
@Myranda yea but why be overly nasty about gay men tho? Usually when people are really homophonic it's ethier 1. It really disgust them or 2. Projecting. If he's disgusted why would he watch it damn near everday
A lot of women watch lesbian porn because they know how a woman feels when they're getting off it's the same for men too
Ya but Lesbian porn and gay porn hit different 😂 like way different
I think yu should definitely talk to him. But yu also aren't wrong to be a bit disgusted. (I would be too) this is a hard thing to go through so I can't even fully say how I would react. Maybe talk to him maybe try to therapy idk but a lot A LEAST should happen I can't pretend to kno wat yur going through and before I met my man i would've said just pack up and run girl cuz i would've. I couldn't ever look at him or touch him after that but now. With my man now I can't imagine just leaving. He's my love he's my protector my provider the father of my kids. I couldn't fathom this. It would be hard as fuck but idk as long as he never Done it. Maybe I could try to work it out. We'd need a shit ton if therapy tho and probably have to take a break for a while but I think I would have to try
@Lavender, how?
Not everyone who watches gay porn is gay. Maybe try talking to him in a calm, non accusatory way? Also, why are you disgusted? Reflect on that, as it may help you decide what to do.
@Hannah i don't kno if I can fully explain it but it's Definitely different
Tbh wouldn’t like that… not sure I could stay with them
He’s def self hating when he was hating on the gay guys i’m mean watching it the same night?!!?? Crazy work ngl if it’s almost every night he’s def not straight . I feel bad cause he feels like he can’t be himself. At the same time feel like he’s an asshole cause he has someone in the crossfire aka you. My ex did this I found a condom in his pocket and his phone “reset itself” found out his ass was on a meeting forum for gay guys the next day cause he didn’t delete his search history💀💀
@Jasmine, I've watched both and am confused about how? Women can understand how a woman feels during certain acts or can fantasise about those feelings. Why can't men? Why can't a straight man watch gay porn for the simple act of fantasising about how a prostate orgasm feels? The double standards are insane.
@Hannah when I see girls making out I don't judge them or talk shit about lesbians. But he calls gay guys disgusting & f*ggots but watches gay porn. That's what's making ne think he's probably gay.
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@Hannah maybe it is double standards but I've never heard of a Straight man watch Men have sex I had brought this to my man and he agreed that that doesn't really happen fr. Idk it's gross to me honestly. I can't see it.
@Jasmine, it's not talked about because of the double standards. Women can hug their female friends, kiss them on the cheek, snuggle in bed, watch gay porn, say another woman is gorgeous, and NOT be told they are gay. Men can't do anything. Prostate stimulation is, by a lot of people, considered gay. Even if the man is alone and using a toy. There are a lot of things men still struggle to talk about or acknowledge due to stigma. If my husband watched gay porn, I'd talk to him about it, but I wouldn't be disgusted. Even if he was gay. Why is it gross?
Incognito, I never said he wasn't gay or that his behaviour towards same sex couples was OK. I simply said, watching gay porn itself doesn't make him gay, necessarily. Have you spoken to him?
Just also want to add that men in heterosexual porn are boring. Men in gay porn are more animated and have more reactions during the act. I, personally, cannot stand the men in hetero porn so don't pay attention to them. Yet I'm not gay or bi sexual or anything other than heterosexual. Just a thought.
@Hannah he denied watching it & again talked bad about gay men. Ik watching gay porn doesn't make a man gay just like watching lesbian porn doesn't make a girl gay. I only suspect it bc like I said earlier he bashes them then watches it which is weird to me. His whole attitude toward gay people is a turnoff in itself. If you don't agree okay but why be so homophobic. Part of me feels bad like be honest with yourself but at the same time him acting like that just gives my the ick
Aye I must be a prepetuater of that double standard for sure cuz I'd genuinely be disgusted and want to leave my man for something like that. I also really do think playing with toys in they butts is gay in my head ain't no way yu 100% straight wanting fingers or toys or anything up there like that bro 🤣 idk I think I'm too old school or something idk. But aye to each it's own it aint bad to be gay or nothing but I definitely couldnt be with someone who was or who was into that
alot of men that are homophobic are closeted in some way or another (be that gay or bisexual). Its actually extremely sad that they feel the need to this, and drag others through the mud in the process. I don’t really have any advice, just hope that for your sake he can admit it and be honest. Whether than means leaving or going to therapy, whatever needs to happen. Its not healthy to lie to yourself or those around you about something so deep.